Dc see their dad once a month (his choice).
Every time he asks me to pack their swim kits and then usually doesn't take them. Last time they went ds came back without his kit and dad said he couldn't find it so I had to buy a whole new one.
This time, when I was collecting them I checked the bags to make sure swim kit was in there because we are booked to go swimming here tomorrow. I wrap their kit up in their towel, and opened both bags - saw dry towel wrapped up as I'd sent it, asked dad if they had gone swimming, he said no and I stupidly thought this meant both kits were intact. Got home and dd told me she'd had a bath with dad while wearing her swimming costume. Checked bag again - no costume wrapped inside towel and no costume amongst the clothes for washing.
Luckily I have some swim shorts and a rash vest that ds has grown out of, which she can wear as a standby tomorrow but she does swimming at school and will now need a new costume and hat for it (chances of dad either finding or if he does sending it back in time for next lesson are slim to none).
WIBU to say I'm not sending swim kits again? If he wants to take them swimming he can get them swim stuff to live at his house?