Am I being unreasonable

[Emskimayski]

My husband only ever had 1 long term relationship before me and that relationship was with a chinese woman and ended as he used to work in Hongkong and when work ended and he came back 2 England so it finished. Recently he was o his phone infront of me and an advert popped up saying live chat with asian girls I questioned him about it but he made out no idea however I'm aware pop up adverts usually go from what your search has been so when I got chance I checked his history and has been watching porn but all chinese girls in vids. This has really upset me am I being silly?

YANBU. I’d feel the same.

Porn would be a relationship ender for me. No way would I be with someone actively supporting the abuse and murder of women and children. I'd also be pretty disgusted by someone where they were sexually objectifying a whole racial group.

Is it the watching porn or the fact that he was watching Asian girls?

I 100% agree watching porn is grim but a specific objection to Asian girls is odd.

If he’s using live chats, leave him now.

Depends what your boundaries are. Personally a guy who uses porn would be incompatible with me. Same with cam girls, strip clubs, swinging, open relationship. I kinda see it as cheating - but I know not everyone feels like that.

There is something uncomfortable about objecting to Asian girls because his ex was Chinese.

It almost sounds like ‘how dare he prefer Asian girls to me’.