No gift- WWYD?

[Clarissa76]

DB lives in Canada. He always sends my kids birthday presents.

Recently DS15 had his birthday and received a present from DB. Three weeks later DD13 had her birthday and didn't receive anything from DB. He's never forgotten before and it seems odd that he would send something to one child then the other. DD is a bit sad about it (not about the gift but feels forgotten).

Tempted to text DB and check whether he sent anything as it's quite possible it's gone astray and he's sitting there wondering why we haven't said thank you. But I feel a bit uncomfortable in case he forgot (possible) or deliberately chose not to (very unlikely).

WWYD?

*then not

Message him

He is your brother - surely you can just phone him and ask him?

It’s your brother, why are you afraid to ask?

Just say oi did you send anything.

Just ask him if anything was sent across might be held up in post. There have been loads of issue with post all over the country due to staff shortages. Some people are just getting things from within the UK posted before Xmas. Maybe mention you are checking due to these delays

Message him, I’d want to know so I could chase it up or if I genuinely forgot I’d want to put it right

Do you send him presents?

If yes, message him.

Yeah I'd send a message, if it's out of character for him. Perhaps he's going through a tough time and could do with a chat?

Either way, if you enter into these gift-giving habits, especially in relation to children, you can't really just stop without explanation, or miss out a child. Of course your DD feels forgotten. It's not grabby to bring that up. If there's nothing wrong, and he just forgot, I might suggest not doing gifts any more.

Thanks, all. Am over-thinking. I will drop him a line.

I got a Christmas card the other day, post marked 18th December.

www.express.co.uk/life-style/life/1547508/Royal-Mail-delays-warning-postcodes-affected-update-full-list

Canada post seems to be v slow at the mo. I got xmas cards this week from the UK posted before xmas

Post is crap at the moment. It was my birthday last week and I haven't received cards from 3 people who I know would have sent them, and one was 2 days late with a postmark of a week earlier. I'm also waiting for something from the US that was posted over a month ago.

I'd just message him though, if he usually sends something.

This is a list of all the postcodes having problems with deliveries (taken from Royal Mail website earlier)
Amesbury (SP3 and SP4)
Barking DO (IG11)
Bearsden DO (G61)
Bicester DO (OX25 to OX27)
Bredbury DO (SK6)
Bridge Of Don DO (AB22 and AB23)
Bristol South DO (BS3, BS13 and BS41)
Burgess Hill DO (BN6 and RH15)
Caldicot DO (NP26)
Camberwell (SE5)
Cramlington DO (NE23)
Cricklewood DO (NW2)
East Kilbride DO (G74, G75 and G79)
Eccles DO (M30)
Erskine DO (PA7 and PA8)
Finsbury Park DO (N4)
Glasgow G33 and G34 DO
Glasgow G43 and G46 DO
Golders Green DO (NW11)
Hanwell (W7)
Havant DO (PO9 and PO10)
Herne Hill DO (SE24)
Hitchin DO (SG4 and SG5)
Holloway DO (N7)
Hornsey DO (N8)
Hove DO (BN3 and BN52)
Islington DO (N1 and N1C)
Lancing (BN15)
Lark Lane DO (L17)
Larkhall DO (ML9 and ML10)
Maida Hill DO (W9)
Manchester South West DO (M15, M16 and M32)
Maryport DO (CA15)
Muswell Hill DO (N10)
New Ferry DO (CH32, CH62 and CH63)
Newport East DO (NP18 and NP19)
Newton Mearns DO (G77)
Northwich DO (CW8 and CW9)
Oxted DO (RH8)
Perth DO (PH1. PH2 and PH14)
Pontefract DO (WF7, WF8, WF9 and WF11)
Rayleigh DO (SS6)
Redcar DO (TS10 and TS11)
Rotherhithe DO (SE16)
Rottingdean DO (BN2 and BN51)
Sheffield North East DO (S5)
Shepshed DO (LE12)
South Croydon DO (CR2)
Speke DO (L24)
St. Helens DO (WA9 to WA11)
Swindon West DO (SN5)
Thame DO (OX9 and OX39)
The Hyde DO (NW9)
Upminster DO (RM14)
Upper Holloway DO (N19)
Upton DO (CH30 and CH39)
Wallasey DO (CH27, CH44 and CH45)
Wantage DO (OX12)
Warrington DO (WA1, WA2, WA4 and WA5)
West Norwood DO (SE27)
West Wickham DO (BR4)
Willesden DO (NW10 and NW26)
Wootton Bassett DO (SN4 and SN16)

International mail to and from the UK is really slow at the moment.

I got a Christmas card yesterday (in Sweden) that was posted almost 4 weeks ago yet stuff within Sweden and within the EU is arriving in 3-5 days

Did she say thank you for last year's present?

My Christmas card from my friend in Canada arrived yesterday but was sent before Christmas so agree there might be a delay

99% chance it's just the post. Yesterday I got birthday cards from Australia that were post marked mid November. I had a Christmas card posted to me from London that took 18 days to get here.

Agree with everyone else, probably in the post. Our Christmas cards from Aus arrived on Monday, mil posted them in November!

Just send him a message, he’s your brother. Post has been unreliable throughout the pandemic, we tend to get a big bundle of post every few days. It may have got lost or is just delayed, held in customs perhaps? You won’t know unless you ask either way.