To expect your DP/DH to not swear at you

[Kooksadooks]

I mean swear towards you when they get frustrated and raise their voice…
In the context where you’ve explained to your DP how that makes you feel

I expect mine to speak to me at a sensible volume and use decent language.

My ex used to swear, scream and shout. I’m not putting up with that again.

Generally yes, more the raised voice than the swearing. DH was teasing me about something in the kitchen yesterday (not being horrible) and I told him to piss off and threw the teatowel at him, we're both quite sweary when we're not around DS. No aggression in any of it. The shouting/raised voices is the bit that I would be more concerned about or the nature of the language if it's directed insults etc.