To love my DIL?

[BigGrandma]

I told my DIL I would extol her virtues on Mumsnet. She didn't believe me !

Shows how far we have gone slagging one other off here doesn't it?

Aah I loved my MIL.

@BigGrandma

I told my DIL I would extol her virtues on Mumsnet. She didn't believe me !

Go on then, tell us why she is so lovely!

I hope she sees this! Yes list how she’s wonderful!!

Why would you do that? Just tell her you like her and treat her nicely. Having a pleasant DIL isn’t a virtue, how peculiar.

YABU

Well, go on then, OP! What are her virtues?

We have a DIL we absolutely adore.

Her background is nothing like our family's, she's chalk and cheese from the son she married but they complement each other. She's not perfect; fiery, feisty and argumentative. But so kind, funny, loyal, generous, supportive and loving. He picked a good'un.

I uncomfortably admit that I like my DIL more than I do one of my own daughters.

My mother strives to do her best to be a good MIL because her own was so good to her. She came from a cold, verbally abusive household and when she met my father she was embraced with open arms by his whole family and it meant a lot to her. Unfortunately only one of her children has struck it lucky on the MIL front, but we do all know that good MIL/DIL relationships do exist because we saw a wonderful example when we were growing up.

Can I add that my DD's MiL is a wonderful woman. She taught her son well. He is a lovely man and I am so glad DD chose him.

@7eleven

I uncomfortably admit that I like my DIL more than I do one of my own daughters.

Hi mom

My grandma died recently, and it was abundantly clear that all of her daughters and sons in law absolutely adored her. She was so fabulous, and loving and caring, even her step sons wife said she was the best mother in law she could ever have wished for.
She's so missed

7eleven does your daughter know ?

Outside of MN, I don't think it is that unusual.
I see many lovely relationships between DiLs and MiLs throughout life.

My mum can’t stop telling me how amazing her DIL is, but the joke’s on her because my DIL is even nicer!

@7eleven

I uncomfortably admit that I like my DIL more than I do one of my own daughters.

I probably balance you out as I prefer my MIL to my mother!

@Pegasussnail

7eleven does your daughter know ?

No, I’m pretty sure not. I’m very scrupulous about treating all my kids the same.

I liked my MIL. She had a very, very difficult life and I am not sure she really understood me, but I am very sad she died before she could see just how well her son has done in life and before she could meet her grandchildren.

My mother in law has sadly passed away now, she was only young and it was quite sudden and unexpected. But I can hand on heart say I loved her more than my own mother. She was the most amazing woman and I miss her deeply.

This is lovely. I hope you’ve told her in person too!

My mil doesn’t like me. It doesn’t matter what I do, how hard I work, how well I treat her son, our beautiful DC - their only GC.

I’ve given up caring, just wish she would back off really.

MIL is that you?!

I love my Dil (well soon to be) with all my heart, she is kind, caring, intelligent, loving and hardworking . I feel blessed everyday that she came into our family.

I love my DIL too, what do you like about yours op ?