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New partner - I have serious MH issues

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OutbackQueen · 01/01/2022 00:22

I’ve been single for a decade, late 50s and have given up on finding a partner. Someone’s come along; he seems kind, caring and I really think we might have a future together. However I suffer with serious mental health issues (namely anxiety/health anxiety) which can be debilitating and stop me from functioning. want to give him the heads up before something happens and he thinks it’s his fault ( which it won’t be). Should I say something now or wait until it becomes obvious, which it will sooner or later as I’m really quite ill. Getting as much help as I can by the way and have been for years but so far noting working. I want to tell him that a supportive partner would really help me but so much to put on him when we’ve only known eachother a few months.

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Santahatesbraisedcabbage · 01/01/2022 00:46

Ime how you are with one person isn't how you may always be.. My dh brings out a better side of me. Exh made me stressed and anxious. Dh definitely doesn't.. Why not see how things go for a while first?

OutbackQueen · 01/01/2022 05:38

Thanks @Santahatesbraisedcabbage but when I’m acutely anxious like now I just can’t hide it. I feel it might be better to tell him it’s got nothing to do with him and he can then decide if he wants to be with me....Sad, cos I like him a lot and he seems to like me.

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Oblomov21 · 01/01/2022 06:52

Of course you should tell him. Talk about it all now.

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