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To lie and say I’m ill?

90 replies

WouldYouLieOrNot · 31/12/2021 12:05

My work has no flexibility at all. If you need an appointment for something and it’s only available in working hours you just get told no.

I have been offered a medical appointment on a week day at a time I’d normally be in work. Considering just lying and saying I’m ill. Wondered what others would do.

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Medievalist · 31/12/2021 12:07

Seems draconian to refuse time off for a medical appointment which is unlikely to be available outside working hours. I'd probably take leave if I had plenty in hand. If not then yes, I would lie.

Albgo · 31/12/2021 12:08

Can you book a half day holiday instead?

WouldYouLieOrNot · 31/12/2021 12:16

@Albgo

Can you book a half day holiday instead?
No - fixed holidays.
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LostForIdeas · 31/12/2021 12:29

Well… if you are going to see a GP, that’s because you have a health problem/are ill right?

thefirstmrsrochester · 31/12/2021 12:48

Your options are (a) skip the appointment as your work can’t be flexible or (b) call in sick and take the appointment? I’d call in sick.

WouldYouLieOrNot · 31/12/2021 12:57

That’s right @thefirstmrsrochester - stupid I have to take a full day for something that would take thirty minutes but so I do!

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Sparklepants53 · 31/12/2021 13:05

I’m guessing you’re a teacher right?

Deffo just say you’re ill.

Cherrysoup · 31/12/2021 13:08

I can request leave of absence for medical appointments as a teacher. I doubt you’d be refused if you say you have an appointment.

WouldYouLieOrNot · 31/12/2021 13:36

Believe me, I would!

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WeaninWoes · 31/12/2021 13:42

I'm pretty sure refusing unpaid leave for medical appointments is illegal. Union?

Doggosaurus · 31/12/2021 13:49

If the appointment is in the afternoon I’d go to work, and then just leave and say GP had a last minute cancellation and as it is urgent you have to go. Then just go. Who cares if they don’t believe you. You shouldn’t have to take a day off for that.

Pegasussnail · 31/12/2021 13:50

I would if you really need the appointment

Nonnymum · 31/12/2021 13:50

Your employer's are being unreasonable not letting you have time off for a medical appointment. So perfectly acceptable to say you are ill

WouldYouLieOrNot · 31/12/2021 13:53

Oh there’s no way I’d be allowed to do that, @Doggosaurus

It seems so stupid I have to take a full day for 30 minute appointment but I know they won’t give me the time or let me leave.

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Doggosaurus · 31/12/2021 13:58

@WouldYouLieOrNot What sort of job do you have? What would happen if you didn’t ask, if you just left?

2toastornot2toast · 31/12/2021 13:58

Oo I'm a teacher no medical appointments in work term, this is a massive no no so completely understand. Think I'd call in sick if in your situation!

Doggosaurus · 31/12/2021 14:00

Call in sick then, you have no other choice. It’s pretty rubbish.

Freelady · 31/12/2021 14:01

I think it is illegal to refuse time to go to medical problem .

topcat2014 · 31/12/2021 14:03

Surely if this is teaching there must be agreed national rules about this kind of stuff?

You can't just save doctors appointments for half terms - surely?

WouldYouLieOrNot · 31/12/2021 14:03

Teacher yeah - is it @Freelady?

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topcat2014 · 31/12/2021 14:03

But then if teachers have to call in sick instead, that is worse all round, surely?

WouldYouLieOrNot · 31/12/2021 14:04

It’s stupid as it encourages people to lie.

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WeaninWoes · 31/12/2021 14:05

You can't be denied leave for a medical appointment as a teacher.

Georgeskitchen · 31/12/2021 14:06

If you have a hospital appointment you don't tend to pick and choose the time, so I think.iys very unreasonable and possibly illegal for an employer to refuse

WouldYouLieOrNot · 31/12/2021 14:07

Does anyone have an actual law I can provide? I believe you but my HT won’t!

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