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29 replies

Ellabella8999 · 25/11/2021 18:58

So my newborn is just over a week old, I’m breastfeeding and she’s recently had a bloated stomach with wind. My partner and I have been burping and winding her but I don’t feel that confident in my “burping skills”. We had a trip to A&E because we were worried about her stomach and they said it’s just wind that she has. My partner has now been bringing up the fact that it could be how she’s latching on and he keeps checking to see that she’s on properly when I’m feeding. Obviously this could be a cause of her wind and I’ll bring it up with the midwife. But then he’s also brought up my diet and how I might need to change that, how he’s noticed I’m not confident in holding her head..and it’s all just making me feel like crap and really judged, just when I’ve started to get the hang of burping her whilst she’s sitting on my legs he then shows me a different way that might be better for her, but she’s quite happy being burped that way..right now I’m just wanting to quit breastfeeding and bottle feed, everything is just so overwhelming.

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fugde08 · 25/11/2021 21:15

My son has awful wind and i blamed myself too, my latch, dairy in my diet...All the gripe water and infacol did nothing it only kind of eased when his digestive system matured a little bit oh and bicycle kicks!

They actually take in more wind when bottle feeding so don't give up breastfeeding.

Zapx · 25/11/2021 21:21

Please don't give up breastfeeding for this reason! Give up if you want to of course but not because a non expert has opinions on latch Hmm you're doing great! You and baby are learning together, and you'll become experts together too Smile

Zapx · 25/11/2021 21:23

Should add it's great that he is such an involved Dad though, he's probably just trying to help, and it's probably hard to be on the sidelines for him for baby eating. Maybe have a chat about your feelings, I'm sure he wants to support you really!

RunnerDuck2020 · 25/11/2021 21:57

It sounds like your DP is trying to get involved and be helpful, but perhaps going the wrong way about it! Maybe suggest that he keeps you supplied with healthy snacks etc while you are feeding Smile it is a difficult time for you both but it honestly does get easier!

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