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Coincidence ....ex's best friend popping up on new boyfriends "people you may know"

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ffgghh · 20/11/2021 16:34

Today just sitting with new boyfriend and the first person on his "people you may know " is my ex's best friend.

Now he is on my Fb but we never interact.
We live in different cities and out of 1000 people on my FB he was the only one on his people you may know.

Now ive been tagging my new bf in things
Could it be he has been having a snoop on my new guy?
Or is it just one of facebooks weird connections.

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Bumblenums1234 · 20/11/2021 16:36

If you have friends in common, they start popping up. I don't think it's anything sinister

wigornian · 20/11/2021 16:39

Of course your ex has checked out your new boyfriend. So what? If you don’t want people finding things out about you, don’t use social media!

AnFiadhRua · 20/11/2021 16:43

Not a coincidence imo

Your x used his friends phone to do "research" on yr new bf

LittleDandelionClock · 20/11/2021 16:44

@wigornian

Of course your ex has checked out your new boyfriend. So what? If you don’t want people finding things out about you, don’t use social media!
This. ^
Chickychoccyegg · 20/11/2021 16:46

Course he's had a look, big deal.

anon12345678901 · 20/11/2021 16:46

So what if he has? I check people out on Facebook too sometimes 😂

girlmom21 · 20/11/2021 16:48

I get all kinds of people you may know suggestions.
Don't worry about it.

Bobsyer · 20/11/2021 16:57

My old boss popped up on my husbands people you may know. Both accounts are private and I don’t have my workplace listed.

It’s not sinister. Well it is, but not for the reasons you think

ffgghh · 20/11/2021 17:06

I just wasn't sure if that was a actual thing.
All the people I look at ...wonder if I pop up in their people you may know 🙈
How embarrassing

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anon12345678901 · 20/11/2021 17:08

@ffgghh

I just wasn't sure if that was a actual thing. All the people I look at ...wonder if I pop up in their people you may know 🙈 How embarrassing
Haha I bet I do... oops! I'll just play innocent if asked 😂😂
SequinnedShawl · 20/11/2021 17:09

My DH’s ex and SIL often pop up on people you may know. We've been together for 14.5 years so I find it amazingly pathetic.

DrWhoNowww · 20/11/2021 17:33

Yeah, Facebook doesn’t work like that.

It uses friends in common, networks in common, tagged photos and contacts - if you’ve got your mobile number as part of your profile info (even if it’s hidden) and you’ve got your ex’s mobile and your current boyfriends mobile as part of your contacts it’ll suggest that they might know each other because Facebook knows they both know you.

If Facebook wanted you to be able to see profile views they would make it a feature not leave people guessing from who turns up in people you may know Hmm

BoudiccaBee · 20/11/2021 17:36

I'm sure that if you check someone's profile that happens, so basically FB drops you right in it if you're stalking someone Grin

ffgghh · 20/11/2021 18:07

Oh dear ha ha

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