I can't cope

[WheatlandTerrier]

Broke up with someone last week. I'm so upset and I don't know why really. I can't cope atm. The dog, the commute, work, I'm so tearful and I remind myself this is why I don't do relationships.

It gets better. It just takes a bit of time.

I've given my ex the dog for now.

I can't believe I'm upset over a 4 month relationship that I had doubts over wtf

It takes time to get over a breakup. You mention you already had doubts so I think you need to trust your instincts on that and take one day at a time.

Everything is just toomuch. I've had a taste of someone helping me and now I'm alone again

I want to start my life over.

Get the dog back.

This is not my recent ex I've given the dog to. It's the ex I bought the dog with

Oh I see. Will the dog help though, as he’ll need care and it’ll give you something to focus on?

You had your doubts about this relationship. It wasn’t good, I presume. Remember that. It’s just the shock and unhappiness at being lonely. Plus it’s a shite time of year to be alone. But settling for a poor relationship is SO MUCH worse than being alone. And if you’re looking for a relationship, you needed to be out of this one to find it.

But partners don’t equal Utopia. It’s just the same shit but with someone else’s pants on the floor.

I have a 4 year old so looking after him and the dog is too much at times.

I have anxiety so I'm never sure about relationships

I feel sorry for the dog

My ex loves the dog

I'd give relationships a miss for a while and just concentrate on you and your son. How did you manage before this guy came along? Think about that and do the things you did before he came along. You know you can do it because you did before. Just be gentle with yourself and plan some nice Christmassy things to do with your son.

I'm aware at my age there aren't many decent men left