Is this the last straw?

[2lsinllama]

I can’t believe that this is the issue that ends my marriage but I’m reaching the end. Lots of backstory so don’t want to drip feed but DH has always been an alpha male and I’m sick of it all.
This morning I put the outside lights on as DS has a friend who calls for him. I always turn the lights off when I go to work. DH went out, turned lights off. I turned them back on. He got out of the car and came back in to turn them off.
It seems so stupid but also so ‘I’m the head of the house and I decide when lights are on’ that it’s made me so cross.
Is this the last straw?

Is he quite a bit older than you, OP?

You do not need to explain your marriage ending to anyone in any detail.

"I have been DEEPLY unhappy for years, resulting in me deciding to end my marriage".

That's it.

Get organised.
Tell him NOTHING.
Get out.

Keep posting.

My last straw was exdh telling me to move my car off the drive so that he could park there.

Very often it's the accumulation of hundreds of tiny things that have built up over years rather than one big event that makes such an insignificant comment into the final straw.

Heavens above. Threads like this make me feel very happy I'm a single parent. Don't have that rubbish to contend with...

Hope you get out safely and soon.

And yes, I have less than happy memories about ex insisting that I make porridge for DD with water not milk every morning.

Power and Control tactic.

He's being a twat. DH likes to turn every light off if we're not in the room at the time eg hall or landing, I want them on so we can see where we're fucking going. We can afford the electricity. It might be my hill to die on.