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Drunk text after 12 years

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UbicornsFunkyTop3 · 01/11/2021 08:48

The other night at gone 10pm I received a message on Instagram from an anonymous hobby account (think nature photography) asking why I hadn't accepted the follow request they sent some weeks prior as I know them. I replied that I didn't know who they were, given that the account had no identifying details.

They didn't want to tell me who they were at first and when I asked why joked incase it "blew up in their face" but sometimes wondered how I was doing and what I was up to.

Thinking it was somebody on a wind up, I said I wasn't going to be replying any further. They then identified themselves as my ex boyfriend, from 12 years ago when we were late teenagers (17/19)

I was surprised as I didn't think I'd ever hear from him again. We were friends after breaking up but then he vowed never to speak to me again after I began dating somebody he despised (with good reason in hindsight)

We chatted for 20 mins or so, told one another about our lives now and work etc and i said it was nice to be in touch, but then he went ghost. Silence.

WIBU to assume I was 'drunk text' given the time of night at the weekend, and that he probably woke up the next morning feeling quite silly or full of regret Grin

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Siriisatwat · 01/11/2021 08:51

Daft twat had probably had an argument with his partner and thought he’d look up exes.

Or he’s either mortified or a dick pic will be winging it’s way to you soon.

UbicornsFunkyTop3 · 01/11/2021 09:03

@Siriisatwat

Daft twat had probably had an argument with his partner and thought he’d look up exes.

Or he’s either mortified or a dick pic will be winging it’s way to you soon.

I'm betting on option 1, how strange to contact somebody out of the blue after such a long time. Something definitely prompted it IMO!
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Siriisatwat · 01/11/2021 09:06

I’m generally a very cynical person but that’s usually always the reason. An argument, or a break up and scouting out options.

It’s quite pathetic really and has happened to me twice in my life!

meltingappointment · 01/11/2021 09:24

He was looking for a shag and went silent when he realised it wasn't happening.

UbicornsFunkyTop3 · 01/11/2021 09:27

Yeah I think you're both on the right track. He asked whether I still lived locally which I don't, so that must've scuppered him getting his hopes up.

It's a shame he had an ulterior motive as I would've happily reconnected as friends. Oh well. Men Confused

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