Ok, is this too much with dd or Aibu?
My partner lives 3hrs away with his dd. She is nearly 18. No mum.
He was on the phone to me last night as dd and her friends were getting ready to go clubbing. Lots of laughter and usual excitement in background. Then a pause while he was called away to help with something. Comes back saying he had to help attach stockings to suspenders.
I did ask couldn't they do each other's but apparently they couldn't work it out. He later shares a pic of dd and two friends all ready to go.
He then says he has such an 'a-sexual' relationship with dd it's great. They can talk about anything 'even spots on her bum'. He applies her fake tan, helps her dye her hair etc.
Naturally without her mum (4 years ago she died) he is very close with her.
But in the pic of them ready it's not Dd wearing suspenders, it's one of her friends (who is 18)
I don't have daughters, two teenage sons.
Obvs the distance doesn't help, any concerns I have are made and dealt with over the phone.
But before I say anything, Aibu to think at this age this physical closeness to dd and her friends is inappropriate?
Thank you