Comment made to disabled DD

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I need to know if I should say something to this 15 year old lad's parents and what would be best to say to my DD

DD has a neurological condition that comes with a lot of tremors but some other symptoms like slowed digestion and fatigue. She only developed it a year ago. She was having a good day today so went to the park with her brother and a couple of friends. DD is 14. The 15 year old lad is a now and then friend of my DC. Today he said to DD that her arm tremors made her look "fucked up", that her walking stick was "embarrassing" and that she looked pregnant. DD is quite slim, but her tummy was a little bloated due to the digestive issue. She was devastated by these comments and said she felt she was meant to take them as banter but they felt vicious and really hurtful. She refused dinner, covered her mirror and took herself off to bed early.

I said exactly what I thought, which was that this kid sounded like a gobby little bastard and she most certainly does not look like any of the things he said, but I know how deeply a cruel comment can cut at that age and how long it can last. Also, I think the lad is a cocky little fucker who needs education on not being so!!

I have told DH he can go round there and he plans to when the parents will be home from work tonight. Little bastard. My daughter is staring at herself in the bathroom mirror saying "I am fat though."

She isn't! She's 5ft 5 and in size 8 -10 clothes. But now all she's worried about is that other people think she looks fat and laughable all the time

Good for your DH, I hope his parents are nice rational humans and can make him see the error of his ways and apologise.

Banter is just a shite way of saying something offensive and expecting it to be not taken to heart. Oh it was just banter, no it was rude, hurtful and inappropriate.