To feel so sad for DP?

[BlossomOnTrees]

DP has RA. He gets a lift into work with a work colleague who has a huge land rover.
DP is finding he can't get in and out of the car so will now use public transport. Can't help but feel really sad that he struggles the way he does. I know this thread is a bit self indulgent but invisible illnesses are really tough.

Yanbu but (and this is a big but, as I have another joint issue and that’s my frame of reference)
Wouldn’t it be lots harder to get public transport than use a large car?

Is it because it's a high step up to the car? Maybe there is some kind of adaption that might be available? Must be something easier than negotiating public transport?

Public transport has no big steps and no need to jump down so heavily.
Yes, the car has a big step up and DP has to jump down to get out which is very painful.

Can’t your DP get a small step to help. www.coopersofstortford.co.uk/handy-step-stool/?SKU=F891_RE&src=gbase&vsrc=igb9b2&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI-pHOua768gIVDtTtCh37kAFjEAQYBCABEgLGRPD_BwE

www.ebay.co.uk/itm/174399196246?mkevt=1&mkcid=1&mkrid=710-53481-19255-0&campid=5338785333&toolid=10029&_trkparms=ispr%3D1&amdata=enc%3A1jIZZLmzqR1WnAD007gWguA52&customid=s%3AGS%3Bgc%3AEAIaIQobChMI-pHOua768gIVDtTtCh37kAFjEAQYCSABEgKHYvD_BwE

can he not take one of those very light folding stools with him? Can leave it in the car while at work.
www.amazon.co.uk/Small-folding-Step-Stool-Colours/dp/B002UYPZ04/ref=asc_df_B002UYPZ04/?hvlocphy=9045373&linkCode=df0&hvptwo&psc=1&hvnetw=g&hvadid=205157006079&hvpone&hvlocint&hvpos&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl&hvqmt&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&hvtargid=pla-548984365883&hvrand=6398329542428819132
something like this

What about one of those foldable little steps you can get? 😁

Sorry link didn’t work www.coopersofstortford.co.uk/handy-step-stool/

My mum has arthritis, sympathies!

Could he not learn to drive?

It's not really LR owning colleague's fault.

Has he spoken to the colleague about it? Can they help with the step?

In their position I would want to be as helpful as possible. I wouldn't want to loose my car buddy.