Am I annoying?

[Verity37]

Just that really, I realised today that maybe my helping too much is coming across as “annoying”. The thing is it comes from a good place e.g. I’ve been helping new colleagues settle into their job and I thought I was being helpful and wished I had someone help me out the way I was. But something clicked today and I realised all my life my helpfulness is probably coming across as definitely annoying and maybe slightly patronising. I don’t know if I should say something lighthearted next week such as “I’m going to stop annoying you so if you need anything my doors always open”

You sound like you’re trying to be kind and you have good intentions. I wouldn’t worry about it!! I wish someone had helped me when I was new to my job

I'm sure nobody thinks anything negative about you. What you are feeling now shows that it is time to let these people try to go it alone; just be available if they need a helping hand from now on.

I don't know but I know I am. I annoy myself on a regular basis, let alone others who have to live with me.

I can relate OP. Your heart is in the right place. Not everyone wants to know or be told or guided, they often prefer to find out for themselves or take crappy advice from someone else for whatever reason.

Don't let it get you down, I think you're right to dial it back a bit and leave a bit more space for people to initiate.

Depends on what the help is you’re giving.

Thing is, no matter what you do, someone will still dislike you. So you might as well just be yourself.