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Man appeared at my window whilst I had my boob out!

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aliyia84 · 29/07/2021 13:03

This morning I was breastfeeding my baby, sitting on my sofa minding my own business (baby had fallen asleep about 10 mins prior and I hadn't yet put my boob away as sometimes doing this disturbs her sleep... anyway, not that I need to explain since I was in my own home).

All of a sudden I heard a sort of bang outside - looked up and there's a random bloke stood there (inside our front gated area), looking up at the house and setting up some ladders. No knock at the door, nothing - he just appeared.
For context - we live in an old Victorian style house with bay window at the front - I always have the blinds drawn on the main part of the window and the side that faces the street when I'm feeding downstairs, but the part on the other side I don't bother because you'd have to come into our front gate and go right to the corner of the house (next to the fence) to see into the front room. This is basically what this man has done.

I can only assume the landlord has sent him to do some repairs (the drainage needs sorting), but he didn't say which day this would be happening (just vaguely that he would "sort something"), and also should this man not have knocked first to inform the tenant of his presence and his plans?

Just took me a little by surprise - I don't know whether or not he saw my breast but surely that's not the point? Feels very intrusive ... Confused

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HilaryBriss · 29/07/2021 13:08

Didn't you ask him what he was doing? After putting your boob away, obvs Grin

FenceSplinters · 29/07/2021 13:09

Did you ask him what he was doing?

toughdaay · 29/07/2021 13:09

This happened to me too when I was renting. I think it's because the contractor deals with the landlord and sort of "forgets" that it's actually someone else's home. It is intrusive though I agree. Is he still there? Can you ask him to let you know next time or at least knock.

aliyia84 · 29/07/2021 13:12

He's gone now, he went briefly up his ladder and now has buggered off. So I'm none the wiser (although my boob is now away 😂)

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Dreamscomingtrue · 29/07/2021 13:13

I rented recently for a couple of years & the landlord always gave me notice, a day or two, that a tradesman would be on the premises.
He should have told you, at least given you a date they’d be turning up.
You could have thought he was a burglar or intruder & if you’d been elderly it could have given you an anxiety attack or worse.

Pottedpalm · 29/07/2021 13:13

I don’t think people on here know why it happened. Speak
To your landlord?

30degreesandmeltinghere · 29/07/2021 13:14

Not as bad as your just - talking ds shouting dada at the milkman..
Ime.. Blush

Frazzle76 · 29/07/2021 13:19

I wouldn't worry too much. Most men who have had kids don't blink at a half exposed boob and my husband says he doesn't even register it anymore. I did however massively flash my pilates class trying to put boobs away, join class and put 6 week old down. I only realised the video was on when an irate old lady messaged me to say!! ('There's even men in this class you know!!!')

aliyia84 · 29/07/2021 13:19

@Pottedpalm

I don’t think people on here know why it happened. Speak To your landlord?

Haha I know, I'm not asking anyone on here why it happened, obviously. Just wondering if this is a bit unreasonable and intrusive to just appear at a person's window without knocking first to explain your presence

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Partin · 29/07/2021 14:20

It’s typical landlord but it isn’t nice.

I once had flu and after knocking a tradesman just came in and started working. I didn’t kick up a fuss at the time because I had been asking for that repair for weeks but they hadn’t even told me someone was coming!

VeganVeal · 29/07/2021 16:33

Meanwhile on dads-net.

I was just on a job cleaning out gutters, climbed the ladder and there is some mad woman stood there with her tits out!

aliyia84 · 29/07/2021 16:42

@VeganVeal

Meanwhile on dads-net.

I was just on a job cleaning out gutters, climbed the ladder and there is some mad woman stood there with her tits out!

😂😂

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