WIBU?

[DontBuyANewMumCashmere]

It's 7.15pm. 6yo, who is usually in bath/pyjamas at this time, announces she is hungry.

Parent A - I'll get you some grapes
Parent B - Grapes? It's bedtime! Sugar/Not right before brushing your teeth etc At the most maybe a glass of milk.
Parent A - Yes you're right, too much sugar... takes 6yo in to kitchen and DD gets some milk.

DD comes upstairs grinning that sly grin and Parent B says OK now? DD says Yes that glass of milk really helped.
Parent B - What else?
DD - Parent A also gave me a bit of that cake...

Is Parent A a massive undermining shit? Or AIBU?!

I have no idea why I said No, I suppose it's just a kneejerk routine thing?
You want food now? Kind of thing. Ha - I really am no fun at parties.

DH and I have chatted and he said it was silly and I said I should have just let her have grapes, it's all sorted. IRL I mean. On here it's still quite the hot potato (which I suppose I could give her next time)

Cake before bed? LTB! Only joking. Sounds like the sort of thing me and DH do and end up getting annoyed with each other.

@Sweetmotherofallthatisholyabov

Parent b probably undermined parent a in the first place. As an aside is having sugar right before you brush your teeth worse than any other time?

yes