Hi all,
Long time lurker, first time poster here.
I really need some advice, my husband is from a city abroad and we now live in London. We love our area and how vibrant London is but we now have kids and can barely afford rent on a two bed flat in a nice area let alone ever buy.
I am from Leicester and all my family still live there, I really want to move up to market Harborough, be close to family and also just an hour train ride from london for the days hubs has to commute on. We could afford to buy a small two bed house and also give my children the life I had as a kid, growing up with family nearby, having a garden to play in and a slower way of life. My husband think harbs isn't lively or multicultural enough, he wants to stay in a small flat in london just scrapping by. It's causing so many arguments and neither is happy. Am I being unreasonable pushing that we should move out?
Wwyd? If I stay in london to make him happy it means I don't give my kids the lifestyle I want plus my family aren't close by to spend time with. If I push Leicestershire I'm worried he'll be resentful and unhappy. He moved here to England to be with me so I feel obliged to be where he wants a little bit.
The middle ground (commuter towns outside of london) give us neither the space I need nor the vibrant lifestyle.
Any advise is welcomed? Feels like one of us will always "lose"