I hope I didn't seem too weird.

[SpringButterfly]

Scattered my dad's ashes yesterday at the river, a spot which is slightly off the path.

Today I went to the spot but there were 3 other people there. I walked over and they looked up so I said something like I'm sorry to disturb you, I just wanted to take a moment. They said okay and I kind of sobbed "I scattered my dad's ashes here" to explain. I sat for only about a minute, during which time one of these strangers offered me a roll up. (No thanks) then I left saying I hope they had a nice day.

The group seemed a similar age to me (around 30) if that matters. I'm hoping that this is an understandable enough interaction and I shouldn't feel weird about going back another day.

I'm sorry about your Dad x

I don't think it's weird at all, you do what brings you a small slither of comfort

My Mum has my Dads ashes in a hand made urn (just looks like an ornament, you'd never guess) on the side board. We were going to
Scatter them, but mum wants to be scattered with him. We both like picking the urn up & having a hug.

Do not give a crap what anyone else thinks!

Aww don't feel weird, sorry for your loss

Offering a ciggie was meant with kindness as people often use them as stress relief, they probably felt sad for you in the moment and then got on with their day.

Aww sorry for your loss OP

It's not weird at all and I love how they offered you a roll up.

I wouldn't find that weird at all, I'd be really empathetic towards you.

Sorry about your dad

Not at all weird. We scattered my Dad's ashes at his local county cricket ground (we got special permission). I love that he can now watch live cricket every day.

Not weird at all. Sorry about your dad OP x

I love that he can now watch live cricket every day
That’s lovely

No not weird, and they sounded nice, they wouldn’t have offered you a roll up if they thought you were weird. 😃

Not weird, I love that they seemed friendly too (tobacco is expensive these days!)

Sorry for your dad OP

@marriednotdead

Aww don't feel weird, sorry for your loss

Offering a ciggie was meant with kindness as people often use them as stress relief, they probably felt sad for you in the moment and then got on with their day.

I agree with this. I’m a rabid anti-smoker and I would see it as a kind and thoughtful gesture.

Not weird at all, it sounds like they were understanding and kind so please don't worry about it. We scattered my dad in a bush and had to keep stopping when people walked past, I wish we would have just asked for a minute because I guarantee we looked a lot more weird than you!

Thank you for your comments. Yes I agree offering a roll up was nice. Just happens I don't smoke. I'm glad you all don't think I was weird.