Taking cake/wine/flowers round to your neighbours...

[DuesToTheDirt]

... when you go round to complain about something the neighbours are doing.

This comes up on nearly every thread about neighbour problems - someone will suggest going round to talk to them and taking some present with you. Do people really do this? Do you? I have never in my life done such a thing, and on the rare occasions that a neighbour has had a complaint about us they have never brought anything with them.

Seems weird and unnecessary to me. What do you think?

I wouldn't. It seems really fake.

If I were just going round to say hi and welcome them then I might take a little something. But not if I were complaining.

V odd to me too!

I’ve taken flowers/wine to a neighbour but not when they’ve had a complaint with us though. When the upstairs neighbour had fallen after a complaint against us, I did go upstairs and asked if she wanted me to call anyone or go with her to A&E. I would have offered to drive her but DH had the car.

If I was a neighbour going to apologise about something specific I might do, but not if I was going to politely 'complain' about something

I would also find it really weird and be a bit confused if someone brought me a gift and complained!

I've never seen that suggested. Is that a new thing on CF Neighbours threads?

It was on a thread I was looking at just now, but this is not supposed to be a TAAT - I've seen it suggested on numerous threads.

What? As in 'please stop playing thrash metal at 5000 decibels at two in the morning and drilling holes in my walks - here's some Prosecco and a tub of Celebrations'? No. That would be weird.

Very weird concept. Are you sure they weren't recommending taking wine when going round to apologise for something they'd done themselves?

No it’s the other way round, I think you’ve got it wrong, It’s the neighbour who is apologising that asks if they should bring something round, not the one making the complaint

Aye right,
Go round complaining about the noise from their party with a bottle of wine.
😂😂😂😂

I took wine and chocolates to a neighbour when we were having some building work done. Part of my apology about the news

@ParkheadParadise

Aye right, Go round complaining about the noise from their party with a bottle of wine. 😂😂😂😂

Well, yes, might as well join it.

I have been on MN a long time and have never seen this suggested-I think that would be a really bizarre thing to do!

@Howshouldibehave

I have been on MN a long time and have never seen this suggested-I think that would be a really bizarre thing to do!

Glad it's not just me who has never seen it!

@iklboo

What? As in 'please stop playing thrash metal at 5000 decibels at two in the morning and drilling holes in my walks - here's some Prosecco and a tub of Celebrations'? No. That would be weird.

I’d never do take something round when I’m going to have a moan. It seems a bit back to front? they’ve pissed me off so if anyone should be getting a bottle of Aldi wine and a forgotten tub of heroes from Christmas it should be me, the one who’s been inconvenienced, not the people causing the inconvenience.

I have been on MN a long time and have never seen this suggested-I think that would be a really bizarre thing to do!

Bet you'll spot it now... I could link to yesterday's thread but I know that's bad form.

I’d never do take something round when I’m going to have a moan. It seems a bit back to front? they’ve pissed me off so if anyone should be getting a bottle of Aldi wine and a forgotten tub of heroes from Christmas it should be me,

Exactly!