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champagnetoast · 05/02/2021 10:57

Myself and my husband usually mark Valentine's Day with a card ect and then we will organise a night out around the date but obviously that isn't going to happen this year. I still want to do something so I thought I'd cook us a meal, bought new lingerie and a few nice bits.
With lockdown and homeschooling both dh and I haven't got dressed up in ages. I tend to live in leggings and tops when I'm home with dc as it's easier and dh will wear tracksuit botttoms with his work shirt as no one can see.
I suggested we make an effort next week and dress up a bit I'm not talking over the top just make an effort but was shut down very quickly. Now this is where I'm wondering if I'm bu but I feel disappointed I've planned a nice meal, bought the underwear and all I asked was he put on jeans instead of the joggers he lives in night and day.

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Lovelydiscusfish · 05/02/2021 11:00

Difficult one really. I can totally see where you are coming from and it’s lovely you have gone to all this effort to make it special.

But I would feel awkward myself getting dressed up just to stay in, so I would probably feel the same as your husband (tho I might go along with the suggestion anyway to avoid hurting my partner’s feelings).

bloodyhairy · 05/02/2021 21:44

YANBU.
Familiarity can breed contempt ... you should write that in his card! Grin

1Morewineplease · 05/02/2021 22:10

Sorry, but I don't have plans to dress up on Valentines Day. Neither does my husband.
But that's just us.

MereDintofPandiculation · 05/02/2021 22:21

YANBU. We've been punctuating this tedium with "special" meals on every occasion we can think of, and dressing up to a greater or lesser degree for each - DH at least wearing a shirt. It just doesn't feel special if the person opposite you is wearing their gardening clothes.

NatureNeverRushes · 05/02/2021 22:25

Yanbu

smilingparakeet · 05/02/2021 22:28

YANBU a bit of a change can be refreshing in the current climate. Making the effort to dress up for a special night isn't a big ask.

Me and OH did it for our anniversary in lockdown no 1 and it was lovely to just feel a bit nicer and romance each other for the evening.

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