Hearing abuse through Xbox - is there anything we can do?

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Dh playing on Xbox. He uses the earphone things to speak to other players on his “team”. Earlier this evening a random guy who was playing could he heard shouting at what sounded like maybe a two or three year old. Stuff like “fuck off you little prick” and then (they’re playing call of duty so sort of relevant) “wish I could shoot this little cunt he’s been moaning all day”. There was ither shouting etc but could quite make it out. It was, to be honest a bit of a sudden shock and Dh jist left the game.

I could clearly hear it all from sitting next to dh and through earphones so was screaming at the child I assume.

However am wondering if realistically there’s anything I can do. I gather it’s anonymous and besides which Dh has no clue who he was playing against etc.

Really was harrowing and am at a bit of a loss.

Sadly I dont think there is anything you can do. Thats awful though.

It really was! As I was next to dh I was like “am I really hearing that”? The guy was laughing as well - it was so awful.

Is this someone dh knows in RL?

Some parents speak to their children like that all the time.

Some parents speak to their children like that all the time
Sad but true. I used to see it every day at work.

@Hankunamatata god no. It was some absolute random on the Xbox.

Yep I know people speak to their children like this - but it was honestly honestly awful. It was just so nasty sounding - “fuck you prick” is nasty anyway - but it was said with real venom as well.

It's disgusting. I used to hear my neighbour talk tell her children to fuck off and reported her to SS when I heard her call them cunts. I wish I'd done it sooner.

The poor little mite. There's nothing you can do if you don't know who they are, unfortunately.

Reminds me of a few years ago, hearing a 2 year old girl crying non stop and the mum say in the background "you don't shut up and ill kick you in your *something" " que louder screaming, so I heard the guys chair move like he got up and then a slap sound.. Que an awful crying like a silent can't breathe cry and a please and then the guy left the lobby and I cried.

I didn't have children at the time but remember wanting to at that point destroy all child abusers and feeling so useless.. I still cry now when I think of how many abusers there are out there. I have a 2 year old and a 1 year old and it terrifies me the thought of them going through something terrible.

Op that's Awful! Are you sure he wasn't just shouting it at the TV whilst playing the game?

@tobeornottobe1 sadly no- the child was screaming and crying. It shook me up a bit to be honest.

Is there any option on the Xbox to report another player? Probably not but worth a try. Poor kid, some people are just vile.

@Wyntersdiary it’s shocking isn’t it - in the truest sense - you feel actual shock.
I’ve heard people swear at kids before and while obviously I don’t like it - this was somehow Ona different level. The guy sounded fucking evil if I’m honest.

Sadly I think it’s maybe too late as don’t know who it was. That said I’m not in any way familiar with how it all works. I never play the thing, was just sat quietly next to dh so overheard it all

I was really young studying and nannying in Paris and I witnessed the father scream in the face of his 3 year old son and slap his palm down very hard on the top of the little boys head in frustration..I got such a fright.

It happened as I was leaving their apartment as usual in the evenings,leaving father and son. I just walked out in shocked and cried. And wondered should I do something. I was shared by this family and another. Professional normal looking people...just one of them bullied and abuse little children.

That's emotional abuse. I would report this to the police and see what they say. If the child was screaming, he might have been hurting the child at the same time. I reported someone on Instagram and the police was able to track them down just by their username, so you never know.

Xbox and PlayStation record and listen into chats that take place on the platform - not sure it they record them all or not?

But you can definitely see the users you were playing with previously and report them anonymously to Xbox - then they will investigate further - perhaps they will listen in on the guys future games and hear for themselves and take it further?

That’s about all you can do really!

Could your DH play the same game at the same time for a few nights and see if he can get his username - then report to the Police. They'll be able to physically track him down. It's abuse.

Go to the friends menu, select recent players from drop down menu, select the player , select more , then select report!

@Heyahun perfect. Am hoping it’s still on there as he’s played a few games this evening (still on the sodding thing now). Not sure how we can work out which player it is - but may be helpful.