How do you know your marriage is over?

[muzzymaria]

Married 9 y and last few have been very tough. Not sure when it’s time to call it a day. We only have one life and I might be wasting it being unhappy-

To ask how you know your marriage is over? http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/4124416-To-ask-how-you-know-your-marriage-is-over

This thread has a few good answers

Sounds like you already know

When you imagine the police knocking at the door to tell you your DH has died and you are not sure you will be able to hide your relief.

For me it was when a stupid question was posed about who would get my kidney if they needed it my husband or my best friend and the answer was my friend as I knew they'd always be in my life and I couldn't say the same for my then husband. I should've called time the next day but I didn't it took him having an affair for me to get my shit together but with hindsight this was the moment I knew.

When you can imagine life a year away and they aren't in it and you're not particularly upset by that thought

@surelynotnever

When you imagine the police knocking at the door to tell you your DH has died and you are not sure you will be able to hide your relief.

This.

Also when I would go for a run and then sit on a bench in the cold, freezing because I just wanted a few more minutes before I had to be around him.

Marriage counselling?

May help give you perspective and may even improve the relationship.

when i found viagra and condoms in his sports bag, and they certainly weren't for use with me

When his OWs DH got in touch with me to tell me about his affair, and I just didn't care. I wasn't hurt, or jealous or sad. I was almost relieved. It was a revelation.

It is sad really, that was his third affair and the other two I just forgave because I thought it was better to stay. He obviously wasn't very happy either.

When he fucked someone else.