I've never had sex sober - advice please

[TigerBread9]

I turn 29 tomorrow and I have never had sex sober. I lost my virginity at 17, nearly 18 and then didn't have sex again until I was 20. This involved a few drunken sex sessions with a guy I was seeing as I was so nervous. I then had a one night stand (drunk, again) aged 21 and conceived my daughter accidentally. I have stayed single up until now and focussed on raising her and improving our lives. However, I have recently met someone lovely and amazing and obviously things will progress eventually. I REALLY want to break this cycle of having to be drunk to get intimate :( I am 29 for goodness sake. Does anyone have any tips or advice? I have quite low self esteem due from being bullied and never feeling good enough, the fact that I haven't slept with anyone in 8 years isn't really helping either

Spend time on yourself before do your nails, hair, to give you a confidence boost so you won't depend on alcohol for the confidence.
It is only a fear once you face it it'll pass.

Thank you. I think you're probably right!

Try to take your time and don't rush into it, and try not to schedule it, just let it happen naturally. If you have good chemistry that'll take over and it'll be easy.