To enjoy watching porn?

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Nothing too extreme or illegal but it helps me get in the mood when I've not stopped all day or feel a bit too Mumsy. I watch it alone and with DH. Not every day or every time we dtd. Part of me feels bad though and that I shouldn't be using it to get in the mood. Interested in other opinions.

Be careful! You will find yourself becoming desensitized, the porn your watching, at some point, wont do the job of getting you in the mood, you'll then need more different/hardcore porn to get you going. It's also highly addictive and is the reason that viagra is now on sale for the general public. It used to prescribed for elderly/older men but now with so many youngsters using it, erectile dysfunction is becoming highly common in men all ages. Personally, I think you should be asking why you cant get in the mood or finding a more natural way of getting in the mood. I.e. date night, new underwear, talking dirty to each other through out the day to look forward to later, make your own porn to watch together. Obviously loads of people can use it here and there and not be affected etc. But for many it becomes the start of a whole problem entirely. Dont forget porn is a visual stimulant, meaning you could become dependent on needing to a visual stimulant to get in the mood. Hope this helps!

It is problematic as so much of the porn industry is horrible for the women and men involved.

There is non-exploitative porn, which tends to be oriented more for women unsurprisingly. See Abby Winters, Erica Lust, er... Oh, here, this seems pretty accurate:

www.glamour.com/story/5-porn-sites-for-women-that-youll-really-really-enjoy

Get yourselves off without that lingering "was she trafficked?" in the back of your mind.

A fair percentage of these are out of the 'strong bi tattooed and pierced women hell yeah sisters' community (eg suicidegirls, four chambered heart) which may or may not be your thing visually, but there's plenty that isn't. It's not mine, and knowing what emo/goths were like when I was a youth I worry about whether they are over-reacting to a damaged upbringing.

Nothing too extreme or illegal but it helps me get in the mood when I've not stopped all day or feel a bit too Mumsy.

Well, God forbid you should feel 'Mumsy'. And sincere congratulations on not watching snuff movies or child abuse.