What would you say to yourself?
If I wasn't me, and I was my friend I'd say 'but you've done really well, you're getting through this, yes it's been shitty but just like all the other times you've put one front in front of the other and come out the other side. You will do this again'
I'd also say to my friend 'you're kind of ok just the way you are'
I'd never talk to a friend the way I talk to myself.