Hi all, I am coming up to a big birthday and have tons going on at the mo in life. I have some lovely family and friends who keep asking me what I'm doing or what I'd like, but I really feel that I want nothing gift wise in particular or even a do or event. I have already 1 small girly event organised but that is quiet and chilled, plus a wee birthday lunch with DP and my DM. I don't want to sound ungrateful but any help with words to keep expressing this to people? AIBU to just want to say no (nicely) and how please?