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AIBU?

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To think he should have told me?

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Wishesanddreams · 23/01/2020 10:28

Name change for this post.

DP and I have one child together, we weren't together a huge amount of time before I became pregnant, but a decent amount of time and were living together etc.
Shorted after our DC was born I found out that the person he was seeing before me had been pregnant with his child (miscarriaged in first trimester) and even prior to that (few years before), someone else he had been sleeping with became pregnant and went on to deliver a baby and claimed he was the father. Apparently he isn't (I say apparently as I do not have 100% proof either way) therefore he has no relationship with this child.
I knew the first woman personally (through work - not as friends), I have never met the second woman at all.
I also didn't find out about either of these pregnancies from him.
AIBU to think he should have told me about them before I became pregnant with our child? Part of me was annoyed when I found out that he never told me, but there's also a slight part of me that thinks if I was me who had carried another man's child, I may not have wanted to say.

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Bluntness100 · 23/01/2020 10:30

Can see both sides here, I don't think the miscarriage is your business and if the child isn't his then what's to tell?

OhMeows · 23/01/2020 10:57

I think he needs to buy some condoms.

Liveandforget · 23/01/2020 11:01

@OhMeows
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for a good laugh on an otherwise stressful day

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 23/01/2020 11:04

I think the miscarriage is non of your business tbh- but the prospect of him having another child is!

Wishesanddreams · 23/01/2020 11:10

@OhMeows lol I think that was part of what bothered me, didn't think he was like that in the past Hmm

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ALittleBitofVitriol · 23/01/2020 11:11

Yeah, I would have expected them to come up at some point!

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