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Gay? Curious? Or am I missing something?

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Frazzledbyalot · 26/12/2019 20:14

My dp of 6yrs has always been a little homophobic as in he doesnt like seeing gay men storylines on TV, uncomfortable around gay couples etc (this is a whole other issue)
Recently he's been drinking more than normal and doing sexual acts he wouldn't normally do. When we're in bed he tells me he wants a 3some with another man so they can both fuck me & do sexual acts on me at the same time... I just am so confused by this all. When I bring this up when he is sober the respobse I get is "not now we'll talk later/ tomorrow" but that never comes.

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Timmythatyou · 26/12/2019 20:22

I’m not sure how a three some makes him gay, but obvs you don’t do anything g sexually that you’re not into and are doing just for him.
There is such a thing as ‘ internal homophobia’ where someone is so repressed about their gay feelings that they ‘hate’ gays but there’s also a much better chance that he’s just a homophobic twat.


MorganKitten · 26/12/2019 20:27

So he’s more confident to ask for things he wants when drunk? That doesn’t mean he’s gay, if he’s asking for a threesome with another man it’s not gay, he seems more into being cuckold.


Mummyshark2019 · 26/12/2019 21:51

Not gay, just a dick.


Paddington68 · 26/12/2019 21:54

he's at least bi


Sparklesocks · 26/12/2019 22:15

I don’t think this ‘proves’ anything either way, sexuality is a spectrum and it’s not clear cut for everyone. However it also seems the fantasy he has is more about two men with one woman than two men with each other.
Regardless, homophobia isn’t acceptable.

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