When people use 'partner' to describe their 'OH'?

[ScreamingLadySutch]

IF HE IS YOUR DH, SAY SO IN THE FIRST PLACE!

People will twee-ly say 'partner' in describing a problem, then trickle truth much further down, that they are actually married.

or say 'other half' then trickle truth pages later, that they are unmarried.

It completely changes the situation advise wise, FFS!

AIBU

The vows are:

For the avoidance of sin
The procreation of children; and
Mutual comfort.

We switched them: mutual comfort, procreation of children and avoidance of sin.

Isn't it a shame people aren't aware of them

Roses, I'm reminded of Dot from EastEnders.

What a load of religious hokum.

Sin??
Can someone explain that?

"Ddog" is adorable. The others are nauseating.

I'm an animal person; not a human being person, though...

@speakout

sodomy?

I don't mind what people use as long as they are accurate and don't be deliberately vague when the legal status of their relationship would totally change the advice given.

E.g. Calling an unmarried partner their DH / partner's parents in laws in a post asking about rights leaving a relationship
E.g. Not mentioning marriage when seeking advice in a situation where marriage as a contract places obligations on them both

Usually it seems to be done to get the advice they want to hear, with little thought for whether it's good advice.

I do it because it’s not always safe for me to announce that I have a DW instead of a husband. I love saying ‘wife’ though, just wish it was easier to do so more.

Oh do one ONTHEROSES! Your marriage is no more of a marriage than mine which I wasn’t allowed to have in my childhood church or most churches being as I married a woman.
We did procreate though, yay us, even though it wasn’t mentioned in our vows...

Your partner is your partner. You don't have to be married. It's an all rounder. Other half the same!

You need to check your definitions roses. A marriage is a union between two people. Belief in a god is not a prerequisite for marriage. I appreciate that such a belief may have been your particular experience, but it's not necessary.

As for sin .... don't get me started.

OH implies i was incomplete till i meet him then as soon as we became a couple i was made "whole" hell no!! granted i was only 18 him 17 but i was very head strong,confident young girl with a well paying job

we are also not married(i dont want to be either)but have been together just over 20 years and have 2 kids

and there is no way on this earth i would put D in front of describing a person as its bloody cheesy and awful and makes me cringe

you dont speak like that in real life why on here

at nearly 39 im to old to say boyfriend so i say partner as we have been together since 1999

hes my partner in life,parenting style(we gentle/attachment parent)lifestyle choices we made and caring duties(we are my user name)

I have an OH or boyfriend, we both dislike 'partner' though realise that this is the language most people understand

Because being married denotes a level of commitment from BOTH parties that simply isn't there from a partner.

What a weird idea. I always wonder who it is who thinks they are able to arbitrarily decide who feels what based on their own beliefs.

The idea that some of the brief marriages of less than a year, or an abusive marriage or a marriage if convenience are all definitely more committed than every single unmarried but committed partnership is clearly absolute tripe.

Cultoffortnight what assumptions you jump to. I wholly supported the appointment of Geoffrey John as a Bishop and would not attend a church unless the rector or priest were liberal enough to conduct a marriage ceremony for a same sex couple and I k ow priests who blessed same sex unions before it was possible to register a place of worship formally.

The Anglo Catholic wing of the church of England can be very liberal and is very inclusive despite the formality of worship. Jesus was wholly inclusive and I note the comment above about Dot Cotton who was largely obsessed with the teachings of the Old Testament rather than the New.

The point is

[one more time]

ON MUMSNET, being sad, lonely, isolated and looking for advice amongst a community of women who TRULY care about you ....

GIVE THE CORRECT INFORMATION IN THE FIRST PLACE

so that people can give you the correct advice and HELP AND SUPPORT YOU.

How hard is this fucking point!!!!!!

I WOULD NOT be bringing this up, UNLESS I had witnessed, first hand, for myself, several times, SEVERELY VULNERABLE WOMEN being urged to [LTB, bin him, change the locks etc etc etc]

WITHOUT the commensurate information being revealed much later -

and vice versa!!

Christ on a bike, how hard is this point to grasp

It's not half as irritating as using the term "twee"!! What are you thinking?

My OH and I have been together bloody years.

He's not my 'boyfriend'

I hate all the acronyms on here regardless, it’s actually so strange to read if you don’t know what they stand for

i quite like it to describe a relatively mature member of an unmarried couple.

e.g. could you imagine carrie symonds referring to Johnson as her 'boyfriend'? it'd be very silly for her to do so.

I cannot bear either term.

Other half implies you are an incomplete person if you are single (vom)

Partner is a reference for a business relationship to me.

Everyone I know says either husband or boyfriend.

I say partner.we have been together 15 years but our wedding isn't until January. I don't say my boyfriend as it sounds like we are 14.

I've lived with my partner for ten years, he's not my boyfriend, husband or 'other half' (wtf does that mean anyway!) he's my partner.

Intheroses - you appear to be Confused. The CofE does NOT allow same sex couples to marry in the church. They state that marriage is between a man and woma man.

Both terms work for relationships and marriages lol? I'd understand if they were saying 'hubby' and not actually married, but this is just odd