When people use 'partner' to describe their 'OH'?

[ScreamingLadySutch]

IF HE IS YOUR DH, SAY SO IN THE FIRST PLACE!

People will twee-ly say 'partner' in describing a problem, then trickle truth much further down, that they are actually married.

or say 'other half' then trickle truth pages later, that they are unmarried.

It completely changes the situation advise wise, FFS!

AIBU

59? 50.

@ScreamingLadySutch I'd never refer to my husband as 'my other half' because it would mean I am only half a person in my own right. I am a fully formed independent person, not half of anything.

'Partner' was a polite way of explaining that you were (usually) living with someone who you were not legally married to.

When I got married, living together without being married was still termed' living in sin'. So partner tried to give it some credibility.

My boyfriend & I have been together 3 years. We have no children together & probably won't live together till our kids have gone to uni. It's not practical or financially viable before then. Hes 55 & I'm 51 though so I fo feel we are a bit old to be calling each other boyfriend & girlfriend, we chatted a while ago & decided to say we are partners ...but never really seem to say it.
He is definitely not my "other half".

Partner means that you have an economic and legal partnership, but have chosen to eschew marriage.

Eh?

There is nothing legal about living with someone without a marriage cert. You do not have any legal rights. You might share a mortgage or a tenancy but you have no rights when it comes to divvying things up if you split.

I get more annoyed with people calling their boyfriend of 6 months their ‘partner as it impacts the advice I would give. For example if someone said ‘my partner hasn’t introduced me to their family’, I’d be ‘WTF, that’s insane!’ as I’d assume they’ve been together a long time. I’d respond differently if I found out the ‘partner’ had only been around for 3 months.

Because being married denotes a level of commitment from BOTH parties that simply isn't there from a partner.

Yes of course a DW or DH can leave the relationship. However it is a legal term and the 'undoing' of it is more complicated. Therefore a partner is someone who can leave without such serious consequences.

Can I just ask what you think I should call my 'partner'?
We are married, and have been for a few years. So my DH. But here's where it gets complicated, in June he told me he was transgender and is now living full time as a transwoman, with a female name (legally changed) so I cant and wont call her my DH, so should it just be DP or DW?

Why are you so suspicious of people? How weird.

I found it all a bit cringy to begin with, same with DD and DS (who came up with them?!)

SBXH is my fave though. Worked that one out straight off

Partner means that you have an economic and legal partnership, but have chosen to eschew marriage.

*Eh?

There is nothing legal about living with someone without a marriage cert. You do not have any legal rights. You might share a mortgage or a tenancy but you have no rights when it comes to divvying things up if you split.*

living together is not sufficient. In my mind it means that you have done things like set up medical power of attorney and perhaps set up a trust for joint finances. Basically all the things people had to do to protect themselves before same-sex civil partnerships became available.

Partner doesnt bother me other half does.Its so tweet and annoying.

twee not tweet!

Personally I find all the DSomething abbreviations far more grating! Especially ‘DC’ and especially especially when people use it to describe children in general, e.g. ‘do you have any DC?’ or ‘DC1 is having a birthday party and we’re inviting six DC’... aaaaaagh!

I say partner because saying boyfriend felt childish and like the relationship wasnt serious and like someone else said I felt like a knob saying my fiance. I will call him my husband when he finally is.

Whether you have legal rigbts or not depends how the relationship has been structured surely. Massive difference between living together informally, civil partnership or a legal agreement in relation to assets. This is where it all goes wrong.

Our union was blessed before God: we promised to: avoid sin, procreate and provide mutual comfort. It was incredibly spiritual in a way I cannot begin to explain.

We met the rector in advance, discussed what we were doing and how important and binding it was. Moving in as a partner is rather different imo.

“Other half” is just a figure of speech. It doesn’t mean you actually think of yourself as half a person. Jesus wept, this forum is ridiculous sometimes.

Omg @ohtheroses take your head out of your ass! God doesnt think your "union" is special.

I know it makes sense to get married when you are starting out, but that post sounded very superior.

Nobody can promise to procreate. Also married people arent better people so promises to avoid 'sin' are a bit vague. Is considering yr own relationship a blessed union a sin??

@OhTheRoses, my union not in front of anybody’s god is worth just as much as yours in legal terms.

I hate the term 'partner' in this context. In my mind, it's boyfriend/girlfriend > fiancee>husband/wife. To each their own, I suppose, I guess I'll use it if I must.

What I mean is, yours in front of your god is clearly meaningful for you both, but a religious marriage per se isn’t really better or worse, just different.

@xchristmasjumpersx it is incredibly sad that you think promises before God and spirituality represent being up one's arse. I don't think I've read anything quite so ignorant.

I imagine you have zero cognizance of the difference begween a marriage and a wedding. The former is a blessed union before God, the latter an expensive frock and favours concentrated around a Bridezilla.

God doesn’t have to feature at a wedding to make the vows important.

You only promise to try and procreate surely, no guarantees.

I'm really not able to get worked up about other people's choice of words to describe their DH, OH or partner.

I'm afraid I couldn't even muster a mild level of irration on this one.

Save your energies for something a bit more important.