When people use 'partner' to describe their 'OH'?

[ScreamingLadySutch]

IF HE IS YOUR DH, SAY SO IN THE FIRST PLACE!

People will twee-ly say 'partner' in describing a problem, then trickle truth much further down, that they are actually married.

or say 'other half' then trickle truth pages later, that they are unmarried.

It completely changes the situation advise wise, FFS!

AIBU

Do you think 'other half' means husband?
I think partner and other half are the same thing.
I can't say I've really seen anyone refer to their husband as anything other than DH tbh.

Why's it twee?

One reason for saying 'partner' is that, on this forum, if you refer to 'my wife' everyone assumes you're a man. Slightly (though only slightly) less likely if you say partner.

Some people find OH/DH twee.

I've always taken OH to mean long term partner...

If you're unsure why not ask? OH and partner are interchangeable, and do not indicate whether married or unmarried.

DH = partnership = Partner

Does it matter? Better than saying 'Hubby'

OH doesn't necessarily mean husband.

I say partner or OH. We aren’t married so what else is he? He’s not my DH is he.

Nothing ‘twee’ about the term ‘partner’. Quite the reverse, as a lot of people see it as an unromantic term from business or law.

And frankly, unless the term specifically relates to law, finances, divorce, property, inheritance, or someone contemplating becoming aSAHM, it’s generally irrelevant whether the people are in a longterm committed cohabiting relationship or married.

OH = DP = partner.

DH = married.

That’s how I understand it, anyway.

Apart from legal issues etc I'm not sure how being married makes much difference to the advice?

The irony of saying 'partner' sounds twee, and that 'DH' is the way to go...

I don't get why it matters enough to you to even think about it for more than a second, let alone start a thread about it.

DP is my partner/OH/fiance! We've been together years but not got around to getting married!

I hate using ‘DP’ partly because it’s so twee it’s makes my skin crawl, and partly because the first thing that springs to mind is Double Penetration. So, he’s my partner..

Advise wise?

‘Other half’ is utterly dire. I am a whole entire person, not half of a two headed creature

I use partner because I only got married for legal reasons. I don't think of myself as anybody's wife

Eh?

Perhaps sometimes people think their husband isn’t being a darling at all so would rather refer to him as their partner rather than DH. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Do you object to unmarried people calling their partner’s family their in-laws as well? For some completely irrational reason, that’s my pet hate.

Other half doesn’t necessarily mean you’re married. Just that you are an established couple (hence two halves of a whole).

Other half doesn't necessarily mean husband though.

Also don't understand why it would make difference to most conversations.

I've been with my now 'DH' for over a decade. It got to the point where he had been my boyfriend for many many years and it felt odd to call him my boyfriend as it was such a long term relationship. Over time I started using 'partner' in real life. When he became my fiance I still used 'partner' as what kind of knob goes round in real life saying 'my fiance'? Now that he's my 'DH' I interchangeably say 'partner' and 'husband'. This translates from real life onto MN. I dont think it's a big deal tbh.

People with others halves’ are probably the same people who ‘fall pregnant’. Awful terms

I say “partner” to describe my boyfriend because we’re not married but we live together and have a child. I’m not tying to be ‘twee’. If I describe him as my boyfriend people assume he’s not the father of my child, probably because we’re in our early 20s- it’s annoying. If I say partner they assume we’re a more committed couple, which we are.

Partner = unmarried
Husband = married
Other half = doesn’t specify