When people use 'partner' to describe their 'OH'?

[ScreamingLadySutch]

IF HE IS YOUR DH, SAY SO IN THE FIRST PLACE!

People will twee-ly say 'partner' in describing a problem, then trickle truth much further down, that they are actually married.

or say 'other half' then trickle truth pages later, that they are unmarried.

It completely changes the situation advise wise, FFS!

AIBU

I call mine my other half as we are a long term couple but not married (yet) and I hate saying boyfriend...he is plain and simple my other half

I say partner. We not married but 13 years and a dd together.
Other half is a crap term. He isn't half of me, I'm still full me like he is full him.

Sorry I mean I refer to my other half as my partner or other half 😂😂😂 I use both

Omg, Husband/ partner/ other half /boyfriend . What difference does it make to you what term they use. They are together and people use what ever title they want.

Agree with all the other posters. I enjoy its inclusivity.
Ive always used dp, as im far too old to have a boyfriend/ girlfriend.

Fiance sounds a bit twee to me.

Also im now engaged to a woman. Whilst i assume that ill use the term wife at times and am proud of my ability ( and those who fought for my right to call her my wife) , its really handy to have a gender neutral term. There are all sorts of situations where "outing" yourself is not a good idea, worth the risk or worth the time.

People have picked me up on the use of the word partner before and i assume they have never had to worry about disclosing the gender of their partner.

People have also sneered at it and been very dismissive of it. Based in a history of only being able to have a civil partner it grates when people parrot The whole sounds like a business transaction/cowboy thing, and become really annoyed i dare call their husband a partner.

Ive also had people point out that partner is
definately a rank below wife (and as same sex couple who were only to be civil partnered that we should you only use partner)

Totally understand why you would need to know in a legal context though and usually where thats a facor people say.

Partner doesnt mean living together to me. It means that you are long term and estabished, so at least a couple of years. But many couples dont live together for very good reasons, yet are as committed, if not more, than couples who are married or live together.

I have been with a man for 6 months and posted recently about this. We are not yet in "partner" territory, but at 47 saying boyfriend sounds wrong. Although I dont mind being called his girlfriend, havent worked out why that is!

Who actually gives a shit? Except you, obviously. If they're together, they're together. And why are you bothered? It's nothing to do with you, is it?

What a ridiculous thread. I have been with my partner for 28 years. 3 children. We got married this year. Literally nothing has changed. He is still my partner, our finances are exactly the same and I will never let anybody call me a wife.Our relationship, we get to decide how we manage it and refer to it.

I prefer to say husband, not DH, although I do use it occasionally on MN. I prefer to be referred to as his wife. I'd correct anybody that referred to me as my husband's partner. It's an ambiguous term, whereas wife/husband isn't.

Bloody hell. Who pissed in your cornflakes?

Partner is a boyfriend/girlfriend imo.
Usually a lot of people on here do refer to them as DH anyway.
Don't get your knickers in a twist, chill.

Why would you give different advice if the poster is married to their partner than if they are not? Unless it's legal advice, I don't see what difference it makes.

"Partner" is the right word to use though if you aren't married but live together etc I find "partner" FAR less twee than "other half". OH makes me cringe inside whenever I hear it because it implies that you aren't "whole without them"- thats the epitome of twee to me. Also- what does that make single people?- half a person? No. Just No.

You are beyond unreasonable.

How other people refer to their OH is about how THEY view them. Not how others view them.

It certainly doesn't change the narrative of any story. It only matters to those who think they're above others just because they are married.

It's probably a good idea to read more than just the title of a thread - the OP has explained what she meant in her first post, and again subsequently.

Such a shame people only respond to the title.

Partner doesnt mean living together to me. It means that you are long term and estabished, so at least a couple of years. But many couples dont live together for very good reasons, yet are as committed, if not more, than couples who are married or live together.

Precisely