Hi guys first time posting so not even sure if this is the right thread - but here goes...
My OH & I have been together for 5yrs and are just about to start IVF treatment due to OH recent infertility diagnosis.
Whilst on holiday a few days ago he was showing me something on his phone and a link for FabSwingers came up in the search bar. Of course I was horrified and confronted him straight away.
To be fair, he was quite honest and upfront with me - he said he uses it as porn because he prefers to look at 'real people' instead of staged porn. He admitted there was 1 message in his sent box which he had sent to a woman that travels around the country, and the message said "may meet ya when you come to my home town". He says he wrote that msg whilst he was doing his business and never actually intended to meet the woman. Apparently it was just a fantasy type thing at the time with no intention to meet and he says he forgot all about the msg afterwards.
He opened his FabSwingers account and let me look right through it. There were no pictures or any other messages on there at all, other than the message in the sent box which he had confessed about.
He was mortified and said he felt really embarrassed and knew that it was wrong and he deleted the account right away in front of me. He's been very upset and ashamed the last few days since all of this.
But just today I found an email in his mailbox dated 3yrs ago stating he signed up to a different swinging site in 2017 - a year after we got together. I've confronted him about this and again he's upset/ashamed and says he used it just for porn purposes.
He swears blind he's never met anyone from these sites and I am kind of inclined to believe him?
AIBU? Or am I being a mug?
Thankyou for taking the time to read. Heads in a mess right now. Xx