Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

AIBU to be struggling to just wait...?

3 replies

SisyphusHadItEasy · 17/09/2019 01:38

Last month, DH was hospitalised for a week due to a condition he has had for some time, but the "long term" treatment is not something we can afford - he requires surgery, and in Canada, the sick benefits would not be enough for us to make it through. He is stable, and the surgeon is OK with him waiting until we are in a better place financially for him to have surgery, as he will require 12+ weeks off.
He was off work for 3 weeks with his hospitalisation, and while we have managed, finances have been tight.

He got a call from his physician today saying that blood results in the hospital had raised a concern - and follow-up results were more concerning.

He has an appointment with the GP tomorrow, and a "Rapid Assessment Clinic" (the cancer clinic) appointment first thing next week.

The GP has said they are concerned about a blood cancer - please help me support him and not lose my mind before next week...

OP posts:
Aria999 · 17/09/2019 02:30

It sounds terrifying. Everything crossed for you. 💐

Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Try to have a plan what you will do in the short and medium term if his condition means he can't return to work, and/ or is terminal.

DH also has a condition that could turn into blood cancer and I'm a SAHM. Most of the time I don't think about it to enable me to live with it but I know what I will do if I have to support the kids on my own, and that is some small comfort. I know it would be horrific though.

Very hard not to go out of your mind with worry, yanbu. How's your DH feeling about it? Sometimes it is weirdly easier for the sick person than for the one who loves them.

Aria999 · 24/09/2019 21:07

Any update OP? Hope things are ok.

Thehop · 24/09/2019 21:11

Hope you’re okay x

New posts on this thread. Refresh page