If you are divorcing a narc is it better that they see...

[OhioOhioOhio]

... you looking normal and not bothered by their presence? Or that they don't see you at all?

Trying to fix my perspective.

IME better to not see you at all. In my case, they got very flared up by seeing me not needing or wanting them. Sister, though, not ex.

Stay away from them and let them spend energy on their next victim.

So how do they choose their next victim? I wish he'd find his next victim?