At the baby clinic I asked the HV if there was a way of passing on my soon-no-longer-to-be-needed sterilser to someone who needed one. I hesitated at that point, wanting to qualify it in the sense of someone disadvantaged, but I didn't want to sound patronising. She jumped in with "Yes, me." Good, I thought, she's the right contact, I don't need to expain further. Then she went on "I'll be looking after my grand-daughter from time to time when my daughter goes back to work."
That's not what I meant! There are loads of mums who can't afford basic kit.