To think perimenopause leaves you feeling sexless?

[Stripyseagulls]

Just that really-I am 46 and in perimenopause and have literally zero sex drive and actually feel sexless- it’s a horrible feeling. At the moment I genuinely wouldn’t care if I never have sex again- it’s really odd. It’s like that side of me has left the building and i hate it!
Aibu to think it’s perimenopause? Or something more?

It's has the opposite effect on me OP - sorry

crap to feel that way I'd talk to your GP and get an MOT - might be something else?

It's has the opposite effect on me OP - sorry

crap to feel that way I'd talk to your GP and get an MOT - might be something else?

@ghostyslovesheets what else could it be? I will go to the docs!

OP utterly the same here. I don't even masturbate anymore. No drive at all. Horrendous and my DH thinks it means I don't love him. I do. But just no interest in sex at all. Gutted.

Yanbu, this happened to me too. Ovulation time was always my best time and with that gone, it’s a real effort despite being in a loving long term marriage. I was in full menopause since ds has been 2, he’s almost 18 now. So about three years into our marriage.

Same here although ive no idea if its that. I have a mirena coil and its the best contraception in the world because i never want sex. We used to joke i was always horny

Not sure if HRT would help but I don’t feel like i need it at the moment and also worry about the risks

I am exactly the same. I’m hoping it returns!

Me too OP. Fortunately I'm not bothered, quite happy not to have that complication I my life.

I am exactly the same. I’m hoping it returns!

Not sure if HRT would help but I don’t feel like i need it at the moment and also worry about the risks

I've found the opposite, actually. Although the fact that I wasn't feeling it for my ex, and now I don't have to maybe has something to do with me going into overdrive. I really need to start dating.

Same here OP. Just couldn't give a $%#€ if I never had IT again 🙁

My sex drive was only just coming back after the early years of child rearing when the peri nuked it and I felt horrible ("dead from the neck down" as my mum used to put it). Fortunately HRT has helped a lot.

Same here OP. Just couldn't give a $%#€ if I never had IT again 🙁

When I go to bed all I ever want to do is sleep

Am not sure if HRT would help but don’t feel like i need it at the mo and also worried about the risks involved

Peri and early menopause - my libido was still strong. Completely post menopause - couldn’t care less if I never had sex again. And as I’m divorced now it’s unlikely I will!

Peri and early menopause - my libido was still strong. Completely post menopause - couldn’t care less if I never had sex again. And as I’m divorced now it’s unlikely I will!

Kept my libido during peri. Post meno, (7 years since last period) couldn’t care less if Inever had sex again. Divorced now so quite happy with the situation!

Kept my libido during peri. Post meno, (7 years since last period) couldn’t care less if Inever had sex again. Divorced now so quite happy with the situation!

Sex drive fucked off with the menopause. It makes me sad.

Sex drive fucked off with the menopause. It makes me sad.

No idea why that posted several times!