AAAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGGGGHHHHHHH probably a tiny bit but.... hate my doctor!

[lissie]

well, after this last mc i have decided to start my ADs again, back on sertraline but only 50mg (lowest dosage ever) im so cross tho! she asked if we were still ttc "yes" i say. so she launched into a speech about how irresponsible it is to take ads while ttc, implied that my ep was caused by taking them. i told her that my counsellor, regular gp and consultant have all said that there was no evidence to suggest that sertraline had any ill effects in pg and was an AD that would be prescribed to bf mothers. she said that i'd had 5 mcs now, there must be something behind it.
i reminded her that my ante-natal and post-natal care with ds was appalling (bladder misplaced/raging uterine infection/huge blood loss etc) she said, well its easy to place blame!

By this point i was tired of banging my head against the wall so said that if dh and i decide not to ttc for a bit we will use condoms, so she told me that the MAP worked for 72hrs and i should consider taking it! .

i very calmly reminded her that the MAP increases the risk of EP and im already high risk, she glanced at my notes and said oh, so you are. walked out in the end. arrrrrrgggghhhh why do i get the crap doctors?!

Am so shocked. You poor thing. I can't believe she mentioned blame!!!! You sound much better informed than her. I hope she takes up a different job, she is not suited to healthcare.

Best of luck.

im just glad i am! imagine if i hadnt read up etc

I think you really need to complain about this woman. Not only has she treated you with contempt, she's misinformed and not very kind. She is probably treating half her patients this way. Poor you

we have already lodged a complaint about ds's delivery and the care i recieved afterward, tbh i know we should hold off ttc for a bit and am considering but was horrified that she suggested the MAP with my history.

What an evil bitch!

i know. think i'll change gps. this is ridiculous now

you should change GPs and complain IMO - how dare she make you feel this way. There is a difference between informing patients of possible side effects (not that i know anything) and making you feel worse than you already do, if you are depressed and in the need of ADs it is because you are ill, physically, would she have the same attitude if you had, for instance, tonsilitis and needed antibiotics. Condescending, heartless bitch!!!! honestly, some of these bloody GPs are so completely up their own arses it doesnt bear thinking about. Many, fortunately, are lovely.

oh lissie ((((((((((((((()))))))))))))))))) xx

What an awful GP. You have every right to change and I would complain.

Poor you.

YANBU

{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

What a cow!
I changed GPs after one refused to listen to me about youngest dd and still tried to prescribe her penicillin when she is badly allergic to them. Best thing I ever did!

lissie thats terrible treatment ffs [anger]

sometimes i honestly cant believe some doctors and their insensitive bloody comments. like you dont feel bad enough already.

what an insensitive bitch.

fancy telling a woman who's just had an m/c to use the morning after pill.

You must write a letter of complaint NOW.

Is the GMC you write to for these things, I'm not sure.

Listen to your consultant that's my advice.

Wouldn't bother about GMC.....it will take 100 years for anything to be done by them.

Write a letter of complaint to the practice manager.

Oh lissie. I am sorry - I was away and didn't know you had had another MC. for you.

Have you had a look at the Zita West website? Lots of good info about fertility and conception and I think there is also some stuff about recurrent MCs.

Agree your doc sounds useless.

thanks all, glad im not being daft!

LOL at "it's easy to place blame" Maybe.

What is really HARD is finding someone in the health profession that will accept accountability.

ikwym

You are not being unreasonable.

I am just coming on to call her a whore-bitch-cow-features for you

as you're too bloody nice to do it.

sending you good thoughts for your next pregnancy, I'm getting over a miscarriage too but not trying to get up duff quite yet.

thank you.

I take it this is not your own GP, but another in the same practice? If that's the case, why not just avoid her in future and try to get to see your own GP now, and tell her the whole story, as you have told us.

I'm not sure the GMC can do much about insensitive remarks esp if one-off occasion.

thats right, she was standing in.

what a totally useless bitch from hell!!! I agree, think you should write letter to practice manager, detail as much of the actual convo as you can remember, so they can act on it. And ask for it to be put on your record that you don't see her again. I had to complain once at my Family Planning Clinic when the trainee doctor was obviously in a mad rush and running late, gave me my pills and ushered me out, I turned round just in time to see her copying down my blood pressure measurement from the previous visit onto that day's notes!! she hadn't bothered to take it and just copied it from the last time!! I wrote a complaint and received a grovelling letter back detailing the discipline procedure that had been taken against her. Felt a wee bit bad when i learned how much trouble she was in, but it was faking information!!

thats awful!