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I believe my husband has cheated

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appledaisy · 03/03/2019 14:34

I think my husband is cheating on me -he's either been with a prostitute or I am just going insane.

I will try to not drip feed but last years we almost split up because I found out he spent some of our mortgage money to pay for live sex cams. I suffered but we remained together. We have a 3 years old child. He is a very "sexual" person, loves pornography, cannot see a pretty woman on Facebook that he'll spend a good time looking at her photos. I do not know if it matters but I am quite young and also not bad looking. I have never had proof of "real" cheating.

He recently bought some viagra (he's 40) and said he would like to experiment with me. I declined as I believe he does not need.

This morning our child reached the drawer where the pills were so I moved it to a tall cupboard in the kitchen. But I opened the box - I don't even know why I did it - but the package was already opened with one pill missing.

Last Wednesday he messaged me saying he would not complete his work as he got a problem with his car but he would be back home in the usual time. We work in the same place a few days a week.

Now I cannot stop thinking he saw someone on Wednesday and took that pill. Everything sounds like a piece of evidence as I remember now he was talking with such level of details about the car problem and wondering how it did happen.

Do you think I have got a point or am I paranoid? I will not confront him because this time I want to investigate further and keep proof of whatever I may find.

I am planning to check his card transactions when he leaves his phone around - I can access through the bank app and find out what he did that Wednesday.

Any bits of advice please?

Xx

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SalliSunbeem · 03/03/2019 14:50

Put friend finder on his phone and track him? Check his clothes for unusual scent odours?

Just ask him outright? But expect him to lie if he's been cheating.

appledaisy · 03/03/2019 15:01

SalliSunbeem

I think he did something on Wednesday but I did not suspect until this morning when I checked the viagra box and there's one pill missing. That's why I want to have a look at his bank transactions. However you have got a point, he might be seeing someone that is not a prostitute. Sad

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SalliSunbeem · 03/03/2019 15:30

It's a horrid feeling, been there, but you need to find out. Can you check his satnav, phone, bank acct?

Hoopaloop · 03/03/2019 15:50

Are you sure he's not just had some me-time on the sofa after you've gone to bed?

LuckyLou7 · 03/03/2019 15:57

Tell him you've noticed there's a tablet missing. Gauge his reaction. Then dump him on his sorry arse if he's cheating on you. I would never have got past the cam girl thing.

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