Vicki Martinelli recently died from cancer and this open letter of hers was published in the local paper. My condolences to her family. She sounds like an amazing woman, and her advice is heartfelt. I'm going to try and follow it. I thought the people of AIBU might benefit too.
www.eppingforestguardian.co.uk/news/17344981.vicki-martinelli-shared-some-words-of-wisdom-before-her-death-in-december/