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To be seriously thinking about getting a job as a sex chat operator?

30 replies

Needadoughnut · 20/12/2018 14:28

It's all done online and hours are not the best... But it's from home and 10p per typed message which makes me think it would be close to £15 ph give or take.

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cheesywotnots · 20/12/2018 14:29

If that's what you want to do crack on.

Birdsgottafly · 20/12/2018 14:31

What's making you wary of doing it?

It's part of the sex industry, do you really want to, or need to, become a part of that?

SpiritedLondon · 20/12/2018 14:33

Chatting by text?

Alpacanorange · 20/12/2018 14:33

Why ? Money ? No other work accessible ?
What will you tell people in your life you do for work ??

itsallgravybaby · 20/12/2018 14:35

I think this is a nice idea if you can make it work. Flexible, not very hard (excuse the pun)

Watch out for the pearl-clutchers on MN tho!

OftenHangry · 20/12/2018 14:38

Go for it. As long as you know what you are getting into. You will probably need a whole new dictionary and be ok with the fact people ehmehm to your messages.
On the other hand you can create a character which does not resemble you irl at all so it's quite safe compare to many other options. Unless there is a pic of you.

Theyprobablywill · 20/12/2018 14:40

I thought it was mainly webcam work now, and there will always be someone younger, prettier, cheaper, or more desperate for money. But if you want to pretend to wank in front of a sniggering stag party in exchange for £20, go ahead.

jessstan2 · 20/12/2018 14:43

You could give it a try but make sure you are paid. I knew someone who worked on a chat line (telephone) years ago, had great difficulty getting her money and ended up with a huge 'phone bill. I daresay some companies are better than others.

Good luck! You will have fun. Do be careful though.

CSIblonde · 20/12/2018 14:52

I did it to fund my second degree. The texting part was ditched by the company I signed up with v quickly tho & it went to calls only. I had lots of regulars who just wanted a normal chat. I weeded out the weird ones by making clear in my intro what I was like (I did a naughty 'girl next door' vibe). I'd never do webcam though, I liked the 'distance' of the phone.

Needadoughnut · 20/12/2018 14:52

There's actually no cam involved and the agency is respectable for only content management.. Hours are doable which is a big plus... And maybe even DP can help!

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Birdsgottafly · 20/12/2018 15:37

Theyprobablywill, not all Men want younger, prettier, cheaper.

When I worked on the Chat lines, before I was an SW, many years ago. The line for Older Women and even the Elderly, was the busiest.

I should imagine its still manly Fetish and the very loney that use them.

Birdsgottafly · 20/12/2018 15:40

Needadoughnut, why do you think your DP could help?

I don't think it's going to be how you think, with that remark.

What I will say is there's always going to be a call which seems normal, then he ends with "don't tell your Mother, little Girl, or ill have to kill her", in a whisper. Your supposed to report them, but they're never traceable.

CarlGrimesMissingEye · 20/12/2018 15:40

I have a friend who used to do this. She stopped when her daughter was a bit older but it suited her when she needed extra cash and some Funny hours around her other work. She said it was pretty mundane most of the time.

AcidPops · 20/12/2018 15:44

My friend signed up for this but it was her husband who did l the texting. They made steady money, he was fab at it!!!

RivanQueen · 20/12/2018 15:52

I used to work with a woman who did this and she made quite a bit of money out of it. The down side for her was that she saw the truly depraved side of some of the men that contacted her and it turned her off sex and men for a couple of years. I'm not saying that would happen with you, but I would say prepare yourself to have your eyes opened to some strange, weird and downright nasty fetishes. If you're all good with that then go for it.

Needadoughnut · 20/12/2018 15:54

@bird it's all via text/IM so they'd never know it was him on the other side!

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HowlsMovingBungalow · 20/12/2018 15:56

I dabbled many years ago, I lasted a week. Best of luck with it, fucking horrible industry to be promoting and working in.

Loopylou6 · 20/12/2018 16:04

@needadoughnut would you mind PMing me the name of this company, I'm quite interested myself.

makingmiracles · 20/12/2018 16:13

@needadonute same here plz

NeverHadANickname · 20/12/2018 16:14

I'm surprised there is money in anything like this. With all of the dating or hook up sites available now and some people do things like this with each other for free. People who dont want a relationship but just want some online fun with someone else.

Anyway, if you can make money out of it then I say go for it.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 20/12/2018 16:16

You'd never get enough messages for £15 ph.

And I suspect when you get started; you make nothing like 10p per message either.

NCObviously · 20/12/2018 16:22

On the other hand you can create a character which does not resemble you irl at all so it's quite safe compare to many other options. Unless there is a pic of you.

In my experience texting doesn't work like cams/phones. There are a number of already created personas. Each one has a name, age, location and some other basic details written about them. There are also often a set of images to go with it. The profile info is made up based on the images. It's all fictitious.

Messages come through and are assigned to a profile based on what the person texting in asks for. They may ask for a specific person or just an age/gender/hair colour etc eg young hot blonde.

You need to be able to switch your brain quickly as you will be texting several people at once. You need to keep up with multiple conversations and also make notes. The notes are to help you and other operators so you can keep track of info the texter has told you eg their name, description etc. You also need a strong stomach. Expect to see and read some disgusting stuff.

It's not a majorly difficult job but it does require concentration and it takes a while to become quick without being terrible at it. You need to keep texters interested so have to learn how to tease enough to keep them texting but not have them get bored. You also need to come across as genuine, even if you are horrified by what they are saying.

Pros: Hours to suit. No nudity or performing sex acts involved. More removed than other sex industry work as not using your voice/images. Much more anonymous as hidden entirely behind the personas created. A good company will offer mod support who will step in if things get nasty and it's easier for them to do so since it's all text based via an interface. Mods can monitor all texts to several operators at once. Money can be good.

Cons: It is sex industry work. You need to decide if you are ok with this. You will spend most of your time basically finding different ways to write porn. You will learn about fetishes and kinks you'd probably really rather not know about. You will have to send and view nude photos. Even the people go want to just chat will often send pics you have to say you love. Expect to see a LOT of dick pics.

While some things are illegal to discuss (you will get guidelines) many others are not. You will get messages which may make you uncomfortable. You are basically pretending to be someone else and sometimes the people fall for the fake persona and you have to deal with that. You are selling a fantasy and the lines will be advertised as fantasy but many texters get very involved. You need to handle that carefully.

The job requires more concentration than you think and it's difficult to sustain momentum for an extended period of time. Pay per text can also be terrible. You can only reply to the messages assigned to you, if it's a slow time of day they can be few and far between.

Advice

If you decide to do it research the company you will be working for, some are much better than others. You need to make sure they will treat you well and pay you properly.

HowlsMovingBungalow · 20/12/2018 16:30

What NC said.

Years ago when I did it, it was 'meet a local girl' texts.... so you encouraged the caller to text and create a relationship, thinking they would meet up with your 'character'.

Needadoughnut · 20/12/2018 16:35

That's brilliant advice , thanks NCObviously . I got approached by a content moderation agency (my field for some time). They're somewhat known in thebusiness, but I don't think people take these jobs very often.

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DayManChampionOfTheSun · 20/12/2018 16:37

OP please send me the information! My dp could do this whilst he is off work!

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