Aibu to wonder how this happened...

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Tunnocks34 · 03/12/2018 17:58

And what to do!

I’m pregnant. Unplanned. We use condoms religiously. One hasn’t split. I mean I know they aren’t 100% but I thought this was because they split, or weren’t used properly. I just cannot believe that I am pregnant.

Secondly, I am getting married in 7 months. In Ireland. I will be 8 months pregnant. We’ve paid thousands of pounds out on deposits etc.

So what do I do now. Is it pushing it to get married in Ireland at 35 weeks? Do I cancel and then do something small here? Also, whilst this baby is a shock, we’re not unhappy. We planned to have another this time next year anyway so we won’t be terminating or anything like that.

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pizzapineapple · 03/12/2018 17:59

Can you bring the wedding forward?

EwItsAHooman · 03/12/2018 18:01

Ideother bring the wedding forward or push it back a few months, presuming you'd be able to rearrange dates, etc.

Ichbinstoltz · 03/12/2018 18:01

Have the wedding. Have the baby. Enjoy the lot. Seriously, does anybody believe that brides in a pretty white dress are really virgins and it's all a big deal nowadays? At least this frees up your dress choice, brightly coloured and voluminous can now be in the running!

Rattinghat · 03/12/2018 18:04

My friend was Irish catholic and 8 months at her wedding (in a catholic church in the UK). She chose the hymn Dear Lord And Father of Mankind, Forgive Our Foolish Ways. All was fine.

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Tunnocks34 · 03/12/2018 18:04

Oh we already have two kids so no one thinks I’m a virgin! Just don’t know if it’s so close to our due date.

I have emailed the venue to enquiry about a date change but invites have gone out. It’s a small wedding though so we shouldn’t have too much trouble informing everyone if it’s possible.

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Tunnocks34 · 03/12/2018 18:05

I only mentioned the in Ireland part because I am based in the UK, so we’re travelling from England to Ireland for the wedding

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cushioncuddle · 03/12/2018 18:07

I think I'd try to change the date. It would be too much of a worry to chance it.
Fingers crossed you get a positive reply from the venue.

user1484424013 · 03/12/2018 18:08

Get the ferry. Prep with all the baby crap in case. I was In Ireland for a wedding at 36 weeks and still lasted until 39 weeks lol no amount of mountain walking bought Labour on good luck

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