This will get deleted as it’s a TAAT but to summarise the OP wasn’t prepared to accept they might have an issue with daytime drinking that they were not being honest about with their partner. They remained very defensive.
They tripped themselves up with a failed name change which revealed they were a man who had been unhappy in their marriage some time ago, which was a bit creepy as they made some odd comments about themselves having ‘great boobs’. All in all odd, and a waste of time IMO.