IKEA

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Me to dh: ds needs some shelves for his room
Dh: ok, but they won't fit in our car with both ds. Why don't you ask dfil and dmil?

(Dfil and dmil are retired and fit and healthy and always looking for things to do/ways to be helpful and regularly make trips to the city IKEA is in)

Me: ok

Me to mil: do you have any ikea trips planned? If so could you pick up a shelving unit?

Mil: yes, of course - I have something to do in the shopping centre next to ikea anyway. We will go ok Tuesday

Me: just whenever you're going - no rush

Mil: I'm going on Tuesday - let us know what shelves

Me to dh: here are three sets of shelves - what do you think?

Dh: I don't know - you decide

Me: I don't know - that's why I'm asking you

Dh: well I'm really annoyed that you asked my mum to do that in the first place - you shouldn't have...........

Who IBU?!

your dh...he suggested asking them in the 1st place right? just go ahead and pick one yourself, its fine to ask them to help out if they are going anyway and happy to! :)

He is, he suggested asking her???? What is his solution to the problem of ds’s room needing shelves?

@MadameButterface his solution was to ask pil?!

Was he suggesting asking them to collect them, or care for the dc? Either way, they're shelves, just measure the space and pick whatever fits best.

Tbh id have just said to dh "ok we wont all fit in the car with the kids so I will go myself on Saturday" then just left him and the boys.

@YouWereRight collect them. Their car is bigger than ours.

I think IWBU to ask DH's opinion on shelves.

Have you asked him why he has got the hump with you for doing exactly what he suggested?

@TulipsInBloom1 ooooooh why didn't I think of that? A solo IKEA trip sounds bliss!!!!

I asked them because they are always looking for things to do and I thought they would actually like being asked.

@MadameButterface no point in asking - he's been in a mood all day.

Solo is the only way to do IKEA. I nearly buried my dc in the soft toys and ran away on Saturday.

@TulipsInBloom1 well done you for taking them! I can't believe DH and I are having an IKEA argument without even entering the fecking building.

Can you honestly not wait till dc are in bed and say ‘i don’t really understand why you’re angry with me, can we talk?’ ?

@MadameButterface he's nightshift. I think that's the cause of his mood. I will no doubt get an apology in the morning

Ah, dp would definitely rather leave the dc with their grandparents and go to IKEA with me.

Wait wait wait. You guys would go to IKEA alone???? That place is the feckin' Daedalus's Labyrinth! If I'm taking that hell on, DH is coming with me! 😂 You could be lost forever in a sea of Malm, Songesand, Kvikne and Hemnes!

Im not allowed to go to Ikea alone. I like to buy things.

@Cindersdonegood and the candles....they get me every time, especially since I usually forget I've bought them!

@Avonandice I like to buy things too - I'm sure that's why he suggested getting someone else to go for us!

I now live half a mile from an IKEA. It’s not s special trip any more and so I am no longer tempted by ALL the candles. This makes me a little sad. Your DH is being a bit of a plonker.

Your huswang is being a ... Well.

Sounds like my dh, suggests things then changes his mind.

@AGHHHH and @anniehm yip - to the point I actually thought I was being NICE by giving them a "job"/including them

@Avonandice according to my DH I have that problem too. Luckily our nearest Ikea is almost 2 hours drive away. I could spend a small fortune in the kitchen section alone.