To think my dentist was being weird/ inappropriate

[justthisguy]

I’ve got an appointment due soon. The last couple of times I’ve had a new dentist. The first she stroked my cheek whilst checking my mouth out. The second she asked if I remembered her because she’d dyed her hair. Then she asked if I was married (I was then - nine months ago - we’ve since separated) and when I told her yes, she laughed and said “well that’s one change I can’t make then - marry you!” (I don’t think English is her first language). At the end of the session however she became very brusque and business-like, made a point of telling me she’d be extending the periods between our appointments and telling me to get out before she found something wrong with me. I left feeling very baffled.

Now, I’m hardly the most attractive bloke. Out of tall, dark and handsome I can manage just”dark”. And my teeth look god awful. So I doubt she was chatting me up. Is this just a jokey way of putting patients at ease or something? Because it kinda did the opposite.

If you feel uncomfortable about any HCP then you complain to their manager, and make sure you don't see them again.

I'd just forget about it to be honest.

Is she foreign?

I ask because I spent sometime working abroad and was totally surprised by different cultures and their conversations etc.

I wouldn’t worry about it. People are different and I think sometimes we need to make allowances when English isn’t the first language and they’re from a different culture.

That is weird and inappropriate.

If op was a woman everyone would be up in arms. Disgraceful behaviour. I'd complain