Hey
Not trying to be goady or start a debate just genuinely want to understand better... aibu to say that a lesbian who doesn't want to date a trans woman isn't a terf or transphobic? I've seen a few situations where a lesbian is called those things for saying she wouldn't date a trans woman pre op or treatment but I don't understand why? If she wanted a penis in her, er...life, wouldn't that make her heterosexual? I know there is an argument about not reducing people to their genitalia but this seems really important a point - vaginas and penises are very different and a lesbian probably doesn't want a penis right? So dating a trans woman wouldn't interest her? So why does that make her transphobic? She's not saying she doesn't like trans women just that she wouldn't shag one? So confused