To be upset about the neighbours talking about me?

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If you'v suffered with depression for 2 years, and you only go out to do the school runs, would you be upset if a few neighbours gathered and talked about how they never see you, questioning if you go out etc?

Maybe they’re worried about you? Which would be a nice thing?

How do you know this? As above, they might just be concerned. Maybe they think you are avoiding them.

They sound worried. How do you know they are doing this? Are you getting help for the depression?

No I wouldn’t be upset. I would understand how it looks to outsiders

I wouldn't be upset because I don't care what people think of me! Especially busy body neighbours!

Forgot to say op...I hope you're ok and getting some help and support Just ignore the neighbours if they upset you...perhaps they are worried but it's not really their business...so I wouldn't over think it.

I suppose it depends on the tone of the conversation.

Never leaving the house is unusual behaviour, and bound to be noticed and remarked upon. If those remarks are made with kindness or concern, or even just curiosity, it wouldn't bother me no.

How do you know they are talking about you?

Hope you're ok OP, I see why that could be upsetting

In an age when lots of people don't know their neighbours, or when the occasional 'death at home' is only noticed after months, be grateful they are taking an interest.
Of course they may not be talking about you at all.

Maybe they are worried, either about you or the children.

Oh god I was once walking behind some of my former neighbours when they were talking about how weird I was and how I didn't weed my garden. The annoying thing was I really liked them up to that point. Whilst they might be wondering if you're ok, they are clearly also enjoying a really good gossip. Get the right support and then go out and bitch about how they are always out so their houses are probably really dirty And hats off to you for always managing the school runs. If you were my mate I'd help you with the mornings.

Maybe they are figuring out how to approach you with ideas of help.
Hope so.

If their intentions were kind I would not be upset

I have a wonderful old guy next door and several friends (from before we moved here eight years ago) on our road and they're the only ones I care about. It's not really the type of area where we live in each other's pockets and my children don't go to the local school. There's a mother and daughter combo who are terrible gossips and don't realise their next door neighbour is a Mason with my DH. They've told him we're selling up several times and that I'm lazy because I don't work and all I do is sit there all day with my friends drinking coffee and eating cake! I have almost died (life support and long periods in ICU) twice in the past two years. I'm fortunate I have friends and family who will visit because I can't do anything. The funniest thing is I can't eat cake (no solid food) and don't drink coffee. We've told the neighbour to tell them I don't work because we won the lottery.

YANBU Yes I’d be upset if I knew my neighbours had done this. If anyone of them has a concern about you they could approach you first rather than discuss it in a group with others.

Hope that you’re getting treatment for depression, it’s a crippling illness which many don’t seem to understand.