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Children on gardens

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Toolaidback4some · 23/06/2018 15:00

Is it just me or do screaming children in gardens make you mad. Before you start i dont mean noise from children playing, shouting or being generally noisy. I actually enjoy listening to them play and have fun. But a scream..like aarrghhhh type piercing scream every 3 seconds is driving me mad. AIBU to expect the parents to say...stop screaming there are other people outside too...?

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SluttyButty · 23/06/2018 15:03

Our new neighbours appear to have very screamy small children...
I have no small children anymore so I'm not sure if it's just me being past that stage and being intolerant or not.

Nanny0gg · 23/06/2018 15:12

Playing is fine.

Screaming is not.

nuttyknitter · 23/06/2018 15:13

YANBU. Screaming is only for emergencies.

IggyAce · 23/06/2018 15:16

Playing is fine as long as they aren't kicking a football constantly against a fence. Screaming is not. My DCs are 11 and 7 and they get told off for shouting and screaming in the garden I have been known to bring them in especially if their fighting.
Shame the house down the block doesn't do the same and don't get me started on playing in the garden from 8:30am on a weekend kicking a ball against the fence.

Wearywithteens · 23/06/2018 20:29

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WTFnnoh · 23/06/2018 22:41

My neighbours are horrific for this. I don’t mind hearing the kids out playing nicely but the little ones will literally stand outside and just scream into the wind. I asked them to please stop screaming, asked them why they were doing this. One of them locked eye contact with me and let out the most ear piercing shriek imaginable. Very strange.

LighthouseSouth · 23/06/2018 22:44

I know what you mean

When we had a garden, I've had moments where I panicked that neighbour DC were hurt.

Took me a while to realise that teaching DC to be quiet went out of fashion years ago.

Stephisaur · 23/06/2018 22:53

DH and I live next to a park and often comment that we’d have no idea if someone was murdered the other side of our fence because of the amount of screaming there is anyway!

No problem with giggling, chattering, shouting to someone ahead of them... but that screaming. Oh my god.

(Disclaimer - we do check on prolonged screaming just to be on the safe side)

RebeccaBunchLawyer · 23/06/2018 22:58

With my luck, the second I settle in a garden I hear screeching, squawking and ear-splitting shrieks nearby. Water pistols can be quite effective 👍

zizza · 23/06/2018 23:02

I'm so pleased to hear that others agree on the "screaming is not acceptable" front. My DC are all early 20s now but I know we never put up with screaming. Both my immediate neighbours have young children - none of them scream. But next-door-but-one...... I want to scream back!!!! Drives me and dh mad - I don't know how they put up with it (they don't sound very good at disciplining generally imho - going to be a nightmare when their girls are teenagers lol)

IHeartKingThistle · 23/06/2018 23:11

Mine aren't allowed to scream. Actually they are now 11 and 8 and I can't even remember the last time they did it. It goes right through me! If they scream on the trampoline they come in as our trampoline is very close to our neighbours' fence. I'm baffled by kids that come over and scream and I make the rule very clear to them too!

I don't believe I have squashed their outlets for self-expression even a tiny bit, before anyone starts Grin

Discotits · 23/06/2018 23:17

My three year old did some screaming in the garden today. Got brought in and told no both times. No one wants to hear that.

AviatorShades · 23/06/2018 23:24

teehee, I wonder how the parents and neighbours of the v.small child I saw in the supermarket today are getting on? Today she learned to scream! Not cry, just how to make the single scream sound. First time she actually shocked herself, then she tried again. Liked it, so gave it another go. Clapped her hands in absolute delight.And repeat.Grin

Maelstrop · 23/06/2018 23:26

A neighbour’s child did this, I mean all day, I’m not exaggerating. It was CONSTANT. It ruined my fil’s last visit to us in the summer. We couldn’t wheel him outside or even open the door because the child screamed so loudly and so constantly. We eventually went round and asked the dad to stop her. It was absolutely ridiculous. Thank god she’s now grown up (to a point).

Next door have young children who play nicely and giggle, they’re frankly a delight to hear. There’s no screaming and if they’re a bit too noisy, mum calls them in. I love that neighbour!

Echobelly · 23/06/2018 23:42

It is quite astonishing how long kids can spending running up and down in a garden screaming. I can usually tune it out but I can see how annoying it might be.

UnlawfulBananaPeeler · 24/06/2018 00:31

Sorry are you my neighbor Blush

Both my children are very screamy. And I absolutely tell them off but then I get scared me telling them off is adding to the noise . If I brought them in every time they’d never be out. I just try to keep them occupied doing quieter things because I do think it’s awful!

seafret · 24/06/2018 04:13

Our neighbours kids to do this, just piercing shrieks and screams a lot of the time. And into late evening too and running up and down the road. It is awful. No one ever tries to stop them, except me recently when it got unbearable :(

Poor kids looked so shocked when I (politely) asked them to play quietly - it was as if no one had ever brought it to their attention before. So sad.

Lucyccfc · 24/06/2018 07:08

There are loads of children where I live and it's fantastic that they can all play out in safety (only 2 roads on our estate). They play football, manhunt, basketball and there's bikes and scooters all over the place. My DS loves it and so do I.

Except for one neighbours kids. They scream and whine constantly. Their Mum is just as bad - she screams at the to stop screaming.

Queenofthestress · 24/06/2018 08:22

Mine get told once and only once, I say that's enough and bring them inside, can't play quietly then not playing outside for half an hour. They hate it but ds has SEN and needs to learn. Nice to see I'm not the only one!

Ohmydayslove · 24/06/2018 08:25

Sgree we didn’t let ours scream or argue in the garden it’s so rude to the neighbours.

Sharkwithknees · 24/06/2018 08:30

Urghh we have this where we live. Used to be a lovely place to live until a new family moved in. They're known locally as the 'jezza Kyle family'. Before you judge us as snobs, the children will scream, fight, swear whilst their parents get pissed in the garden. Then as the day turns to evening, the adults argue loudly, shout argue and swear. Makes me actually look forward to winter!

SoyDora · 24/06/2018 08:33

I’ve got two young children who never scream and we have lots of children who live around us who I’ve never heard scream either. So I’m assuming this...

Took me a while to realise that teaching DC to be quiet went out of fashion years ago

Isn’t true, as my children have definitely been taught to be quiet and considerate, and it appears all the other children who live on my street have been too.

SoyDora · 24/06/2018 08:34

It’s the adults next to us who cause the most noise. 2 parents plus 2 grown up children and all their friends sit at the bottom of the garden shouting/singing with loud music on every single night.

NukaColaGirl · 24/06/2018 08:35

My eldest 2 DC are screamy and it does my fucking head in Angry Blush Seem to spend all my time telling them to pipe down and that if I hate hearing it then the neighbours certainly do too.

forthelifeofpomme · 24/06/2018 08:37

I would just love to go outside and scream into the wind. Shame I'm 42...